Life is unpredictable in itself, but often we ourselves do not always know what to expect from ourselves, and what traits of character or ability lie in the depths of our personality. Self-control is a valuable ability, which lies in the ability to control your emotions and actions, and above all - thoughts.
Instruction manual
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Make it a rule to conduct a dialogue with yourself in your free time (in the subway, minibus, at a bus stop, before going to bed) in order to know exactly the specifics of your experiences as a result of certain situations.
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Identify events, situations, and people who might provoke you to unwanted behavior.
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If there is such an opportunity, play a scene in roles with relatives or friends in which you may lose control over your words or actions.
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Choose an alternative tactic. This may be a silent reaction to the provocateur or deliberately amiable and sweet treatment with the aim of discouraging him. Play such a reaction model.
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Cultivate a strong will in yourself. Start with small things in which you need to make an effort on yourself. Try to get rid of an insignificant but old habit. For example, refuse roasted seeds for a month if you are a lover and enjoy them at your leisure.
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Look at what is happening from a different angle. When you forbid something to yourself too much, usually, you want it even more. Try to come to the conclusion that this does not interest you so much or that it does not concern you. Then it will be easier to remain calm and self-controlling person.
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Do not hold back emotions and feelings that are adequate to this situation. But learn to filter out what will be unproductive at the moment, and what does not have any logic and benefit in this situation.
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As you know, philosophers believe that the one who owns the information - owns the world. There is also an opinion that overcoming oneself defeats others. So, try to take a closer look at those around you or take a historical personality and get acquainted with their ways of managing yourself. It is quite possible to learn self-mastery, it is only necessary to make efforts in self-knowledge and, overcoming the weakness of the spirit, take control of fate and your own contribution to it. After all, a person who controls himself is a winner.