Even a confident person needs support and encouragement from close people from time to time so that he can be convinced of his own significance and continue on his way to the goal with renewed vigor. But what if support becomes a kind of insurance, without which a person does not take a step?
Instruction manual
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Most people have friends or relatives to whom they can turn in difficult times for help. If you do this too often, then the person begins to increasingly use them to solve problems or to get advice, becoming more indecisive and notorious. And if the decision is a failure, it’s convenient to blame others, not yourself, for it. Before asking for advice, try to think and weigh yourself the possible options for your further actions and determine which one you are more inclined to.
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Learn to say a solid yes or no, even if you have a not-so-significant choice. For example, buying a gift for a wife or lover, choosing a tie "to match the color of the eyes, " etc. Replace phrases that sound with a note of uncertainty with more decisive ones: instead of "if possible, then
“say, “ it will be done. ”Forget the words“ I don’t know, ”“ I’m not sure, ”“ it seems to me, ”otherwise they will provoke your fears.
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Exercise to form the inner core. Independently (without advice and approvals) choose the sport that you want to do. Training should not be a burden, on the contrary, they should become your incentive. If you choose, say, endurance running, then quickly learn to rely on your own strength to overcome the next milestone and get to the finish line.
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Help other people. Show care and attention to loved ones. This will help to become more independent, because in this case it is you who become the support. One way or another, you will have to take decisive action so that the help is real. When you see the results of your efforts, you will feel your own significance, and this feeling will encourage you to further self-improvement.
Useful advice
Do not give up after the first failure. Fate sends you difficulty to test your readiness for independence. If you find the strength to overcome it without outside advice or support, then you have passed the strength test.