According to psychologists, guilt feelings are not always real. However, this kind of emotions can increase, exerting a strong stressful effect on the human psyche. Therefore, guilt must be learned to overcome in time, becoming more confident and stronger.
Where does guilt come from?
After the death of loved ones, many experience not only understandable depression and sadness. Often people are just overcome with sadness and depression, as well as a feeling of powerlessness from the inability to change the course of events and return the deceased. Many tend to be bored and even talk with the dead, continuing an unfinished conversation.
In some cases, people may suffer guilt before the deceased. To overcome this, first of all you need to try to understand how such experiences can be caused, and how much it is possible to change the current situation.
How to deal with such emotions
If a person is the direct culprit of the death of the deceased, for example, as a result of an accident, the situation can be even more difficult. However, one can find a way out of this situation. For example, if a driver who allowed a collision with a pedestrian, after a considerable time after a tragic incident, not only continues to repent, but also suffers from an awareness of his own guilt, it is necessary to put this energy into a “peaceful direction”, for example, to help the relatives of the deceased both morally and financially. If relatives of the deceased categorically refuse to make contact, you can try to act with the help of intermediaries by contacting your friends and acquaintances. In extreme cases, you can do something while maintaining anonymity in order to try to move the heavy load from your soul.
Believers can turn to the temple - confession, prayer and fasting can not only restore peace of mind, but also find a way out of this situation. Sometimes it’s enough just to communicate with the clergyman, regardless of what denomination a person belongs to.
If you can’t cope with guilty feelings on your own, and sadness and depression only increase over time, despite all the actions taken, you should think about the help of qualified psychologists. Perhaps, if a person speaks out, voicing his fears and the essence of his experiences, there will be an opportunity to look at the current situation from a different angle. It is likely that as a result of a confidential conversation, new ways to solve the problem, in particular, some actions that can compensate for the feeling of heaviness in the soul and feelings of guilt before the deceased, may be discovered.