Envy is a very strong and most often destructive feeling. She can live in the soul for years, manage a person, determine his actions, actions. How to get rid of this pernicious feeling?
You will need
- - common sense;
- - patience;
- - time.
Instruction manual
one
Direct your envy into a constructive channel. Girlfriend slimmer, more attractive than you? Urgently take care of yourself, start going to the gym, go on a diet. Envy that she has a luxurious mink coat? Think about how to manage and make money on it. If it doesn’t work out, rejoice that you have more free time for self-improvement and relaxation than your girlfriend. Choose what is more important to you: free time or mantle.
2
It happens that unconscious envy provokes low self-esteem. In this case, treat yourself: visit a beauty salon, make a stunning hairdo, go shopping and buy a cute new thing. Try to do what attracts you and what is interesting: start planting flowers, enroll in a theater club, learn to play the guitar.
3
Take an example from people in their ages, learn to relate to life philosophically: try to understand that you should not strive to get everything at once and in large quantities. Learn to enjoy every pleasant trifle, an insignificant event. Accept them gratefully as gifts of fate. Good weather, clear sun, a walk along the alley, waltzing leaves, laughing children - there are so many reasons for joy, for feeling full of your life.
4
Think about your merits, remember successes, achievements, positive, constructive moments in life. Most likely, they will be typed enough to arouse the envy of others. May it bring you moral satisfaction.
5
Learn to see the root. Do not envy individual, local aspects of a person’s life, pay attention to other aspects. And you will see how many problems there are in life. Lack of health, dysfunctional children, impossible relatives. What is the use of envy?
note
Try not to provoke other people to envy. Think about when, what, and who should be told.
Useful advice
Always look for the other side of any cause for envy. Knowing this flip side will save you from many desires and dissatisfaction.