There are people who love to gossip and discuss other people behind them. Washing the bones and dissolving rumors in the absence of the object under discussion gives them particular pleasure, but what makes them do these unsightly actions? There are several reasons for this.
What triggers the discussion?
First of all, the discussion of the person behind him allows the gossip to feel more significant and authoritative in the eyes of the audience. This is also due to the usual envy, the desire to achieve the status of the person in question and the sublimation of their desires in relation to him. Gossip about someone often increases the self-esteem of the gossip and gives him the opportunity to grow in his own eyes, as well as gain ephemeral power over the reputation of the person under discussion.
Often, with the help of gossip, people justify their shortcomings - because in others they are annoyed precisely by those qualities that they do not find (or do not recognize) in themselves.
Not the last reason for discussion is the desire to please the interlocutor. Having shared a secret with someone, the gossip automatically becomes a person who owns important information, which he decided to entrust to the interlocutor, thereby distinguishing him from the majority. The more rumors spread by the gossipers, the more confident they feel, supporting their own egocentrism and often receiving appreciation for the knowledge of one or another person in their personal affairs.