Sometimes unpleasant moments happen in life that you want to quickly forget about and never to remember again. It turns out that if you understand the pattern of the emergence of thoughts about these situations, then it is quite easy to do.
Imagine that someone was rude to you, and you can’t get rid of annoying thoughts all day: “why is he so with me”, “why she said this, ” “why so rude”, etc. Psychologists call it this: useless thought process. Because it is not aimed at finding an answer or solution.
And this sheds light on obvious, but not taken into account by modern man things: thoughts that do not lead to concrete results clog the mind and block us from real life. If the thought is not aimed at analysis or decision making, it simply destroys the person, introduces him into a state of stress. Thoughts are valuable in themselves if they encourage a person to do something: move, solve problems, communicate, create, and so on.
Here you might think that after rough treatment you need to answer the same. Not at all necessary. You can simply ignore it. So you will refuse a waste of time and energy on thoughts that do not lead to anything.
If you draw a diagram of the train of thought after an unpleasant event, it should look like this:
Scheme 1. An unpleasant case - a person begins to think about it - will these thoughts lead to any action? - not? - then why worry - forget - live on.
Scheme 2. An unpleasant case - a person begins to think about it - will these thoughts lead to any action? - Yes? - determine what kind of action it is - take yourself together and do it - live on.
Good way out? Excellent, if you only apply this method constantly, keep it in your head and do not let yourself think about negativity by willpower. This is practice, and it will help to be more constructive in life.
First, try to track your reaction to a negative event. What do you feel: anger, irritation, resentment, desire to take revenge and also say a bunch of nasty things? These paintings may appear in your imagination. By willpower, do not let them arise, because you are their master. And what happened is a small episode of a long journey.
Treat negativity as a trifle of life, which should not hide from you life itself - huge, diverse and saturated with thousands of different events. Do not cycle in shallow. Use thoughts for creation, not for destruction.