Nowadays, a young family to acquire their own housing is not so simple. Many couples rent quite expensive housing, and they have to save up for their own apartment not only for years, but for decades. For those who do not want to spend extra money and prefer to live for their own pleasure, there is only one way out - to live with their parents. This option is fraught with both positive and negative aspects.
Pros and cons of living with parents:
1. The foundations and habits of relatives. Each family has its own rules of conduct. For example, someone used to close the door to the room, but for some it may seem ignorant. The purchase of household appliances can also cause complaints of the older generation, because a toaster or a juicer will seem to them an excess and whim.
2. Material issue. This item is the most important when sharing. You should immediately discuss who will pay the bills or buy groceries, as well as clean up houses or cook. Unresolved issues can turn into serious conflicts.
3. The instructions of the parents. Priceless advice from a mother-in-law or mother-in-law is often useful, but sometimes it turns into endless moralizing. Even psychologists confirm that intervention will not benefit a young family, even if it comes from very wise people.
4. Leisure of a young family. Many couples after moving to their parents believe that parties on their territory are no longer possible. There is also something to discuss here: is it possible to invite friends to oneself and at what time should meetings with them end, are card games or music permissible. It is worth remembering that communication with friends and other couples only strengthens relations in a young family.
5. Pregnant women and young mothers with children. There are undoubtedly advantages in this situation: help with a child and housekeeping. However, not all parents can be so caring and understanding and communicating with them will only add even more reasons for stress.
Psychologists agree that living together under the same roof with relatives negatively affects the formation of a young couple. If there are still no other options, then it is worth considering that any family is a separate territory with its own rules, principles and traditions. So it is imperative that you have plenty of patience and strength to adapt to the new environment.