How to prove your love

"If you love, prove it!" Have you heard that? Surely. If such a whim sounds serious, it means that the relationship, sadly, has come to an end. Evidence is only required in order to demand it again and again, until the conditions are no longer satisfactory. And yet love really needs proof, and like any work on oneself for the sake of a loved one, the evidence has quite objective results.

Instruction manual

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Primary love is usually content with little: an understanding look, touch, a bouquet of flowers. But life does not stand still, and it is time to move from words and symbols to actions. At this stage, many, especially men, face difficulties. Thinking about how to prove love, they decide that there should be more words, and gifts are more expensive. After some time, the woman realizes that behind the words there is nothing but attracting attention to more and more expensive gifts and, depending on her upbringing, either begins to use it openly or cools down.

In the opposite direction, this rule also works. Psychologically immature women remember how their lover once went crazy with their new outfit or hairstyle, how he was amused by reactions to gifts, how he tried to literally turn inside out when he was given hints of something more. And the race for symbols begins: dresses, hairstyles, reactions to gifts (the value of which, as mentioned above, is also growing). And a man has no time to admire his appearance all evening, no time to say endless compliments. He quite rightly believes that the conquered heart belongs only to him and the mutual exchange of symbols is enough to maintain warmth in him. Both are mistaken, and the result is clear to anyone. After a few years, such couples either part or live on, but each with their own life, occasionally meeting only to go out and exchange the symbols of "love." And all because none of the lovers once thought in a timely manner and did not use their souls. Affirmative actions are not necessarily gifts with progressive value or dazzling makeup.

If your love is for the two of you, not for show, then simple things are crucial - attention and understanding. Living together is tiring, this is normal. Home, children, work, life according to the regime - all these are stresses that can kill feelings. At the first level of evidence of true love is the exchange of responsibilities. If you are a typical husband-earner who believes that there are “male” and “female” household chores, have fun while your wife is in the store: wash dishes, dust, load clothes in a washing machine, or hang clothes to dry after washing, clean the children scattered toys, vacuum … Any of these actions will take no more than a quarter of an hour, but the relief and pleasure of realizing that you understand how difficult it is to manage the whole household alone is enough for a wife for the whole day. A woman is a little more difficult to cope with men's affairs, but adequate options are enough. Take on a conversation with your husband’s mom, sharpen knives, download a football game from the Internet that he slept through. The main thing is to do without the pretense of “Darling, look how good I am!”, Otherwise it turns out that you tried not for her, but for yourself.

The second level is the unification of interests. Remember how at the very beginning you laughed at the same films, went to the same cafes or restaurants, read the same books? Something must have changed, but love … you think that it has survived! Remind yourself and your loved one that the freshness of feelings has no expiration date. Start with a cafe, you can where you once visited together for the first time. Present a book that your beloved or beloved has long wanted to read, but before that, be sure to read it yourself - there will be something to talk about! How long have you been walking together? Just walked along the street or in the park, but didn’t go somewhere specifically? So, take a walk, holding hands and looking around, paying attention to everything you see and saying aloud all thoughts - after all, you once spent time like that.

The third level is general affairs. Oddly enough, but living together is the most powerful disconnecting factor. Imperceptibly, day after day, a desire accumulates to do at least something without looking back at a partner. Not meanness, of course, but something so as not to consult, not to make discounts. At home, this is almost impossible, and now women go to friends or to shop, and men go to friends or to the garage. There are many options, but one way or another, all this is an escape from reality. Try to do the opposite - to involve a partner in your interest. You do not need to consider this as an encroachment on your personal space, the action should be rare, sometimes once is enough. But her charm is that she is an act that dramatically increases mutual trust. And the trust that you inspire is the best proof of love.

Useful advice

One of the best proofs of love is communication. Constant communication. Turn to your loved one for advice, even if you do not need it too much; tell us about your impressions of the work, even if the beloved does not understand anything in it; share childhood memories. A heart-to-heart conversation will always confirm the strength of your feelings.