In the present chaotic time, it is rather difficult to remain calm and calm, no matter what happens. They do not teach to maintain self-control and prevent breakdowns at school. But how many negative situations in their life people could have avoided if they had the ability to suppress their fear, aggression and other asocial emotions.
You will need
- Audiobook "Management of emotions", I. O. Vagin, 2009.
Instruction manual
one
To start thinking constructively, first of all, you need to learn to calm down. Think about whether this problem will worry you so much after a month, a year or five years. As soon as you feel that the surging wave of aggression and anger subsides, know that you are on the right track to taming emotions. In addition, the next day, the outlook on the situation will change, it will not seem hopeless.
2
To contain a breakthrough of emotions will help a few simple manipulations. To avoid the desire to express something unpleasant in someone’s face, mentally count to ten. Control your breathing at this moment - it should remain even and calm. While you are silent, the degree of tension will subside, and the conflict will not develop. With unrestrained behavior, personal dislike can also be added to the problem. And this is a signal that you have gone beyond the discussion topic and are on the wrong track.
3
Try to consider the cause of the storm of negative emotions from different angles. In the current state of affairs, try to find the pluses, because more often the life experience consists of the experienced stresses, and not of happy moments.
4
When quarreling, focus not on the opponent’s personality, but on the controversial situation. If the discontent in you only grows, express it, but do not go beyond the bounds of decency. Better put off the conversation until later, when you are ready to continue it, being in a more peaceful mood.
5
After a stressful situation has happened to you, it is important to completely relax. Please note: at the time of irritation, the muscles of the body tighten and remain in this state after some time, even if the conflict remains in the past. To relax, tighten the muscles of your entire body for three seconds, mentally imagining how you take the load and shoulder it, then relax, as if you were taking it off. Perform all actions smoothly.