Psychological problems are often based on our complexes. To free oneself from insecurity and become oneself, one's “real” is the main step in solving psychological problems.
You will need
desire to free oneself from insecurity; desire to change oneself
Instruction manual
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We need to talk about what's bothering you. A psychological problem can give rise to shame about appearance, prosperity, mind, etc. In this case, the person is convinced that they will think badly of him, he will be convicted or fenced off from him. The "possessor" of the psychological problem imagines unpleasant scenarios of the development of events and, without checking them in practice, begins to hide. He represents the behavior of others in relation to himself, in order to justify and even maintain his awkwardness. In such a situation, you need not come up with excuses, but admit your fear. It is important to talk about what makes you worry - and not only with one closest friend. It turns out that many are ready to listen to you without passing a “verdict”. In an extreme case, you can start talking about your rejection of yourself in sessions of group psychotherapy. At first, the main thing is to throw out the accumulated emotions and follow the perception of the audience. Perhaps they have similar problems.
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It is necessary to act in order to part with a psychological problem. When a person does not like something in himself, he tries to compensate for this real or fictional flaw with something. For example, one who seems ugly to himself will by all means try to shine with his intellect everywhere. So a person suffers less - but the psychological problem remains! Try to act "on the contrary." Do you feel you are not able to speak publicly? Get ready and take the floor at the meeting. Are you dancing awkwardly? Sign up for a dance studio. At the same time, you should see in detail the image of yourself who has achieved success. Scroll through your head a few times in your head about a movie about your future achievement.
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It is important to love! A person with a psychological problem is saved from love. If he likes someone, he will most likely cease to communicate with the object of sympathy, because he is sure that he will reject him in any case. And if he begins a relationship, then in order to maintain a negative image of himself, he will depreciate his beloved: "Who is he, if he has managed to get interested in me?..". But love can "cure" the psychological love of love with love: in this way you can feel like a strong and courageous person, capable of turning mountains for the sake of a partner. It is worth discovering your desire and accept the desire of another, addressed to you. Do not painfully wonder: "Does he really like me?" It’s more correct to calmly ask yourself: “Am I good with him?”
Useful advice
When we are "obsessed" on something, always acting the same way, the best way to move forward is to do something that we really don’t want to do, that which at the moment seems "abnormal." After all, our usual behavior is adapted to our psychological problems and "adapts" to them.