When talking about personal education, they most often mean the formation of a physically, spiritually and mentally developed person who is well adapted in society, knows what he wants to achieve in life, and strives for it. And, of course, parents want their child to grow up strong, self-sufficient, successful. But children do not always live up to the aspirations of the older generation. And adults are not quite clear about how a personality is brought up.
Instruction manual
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A child learns life from his parents. From the first days of his existence, he unconsciously copies both gestures and actions, as well as the behavior of his father and mother. Therefore, if you want your child to develop certain character traits and a style of behavior, it is not enough to focus efforts on raising only the child. You must not stop the process of improving yourself.
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Your child is not an inseparable part of yourself. His umbilical cord has long been cut, and he is a separate, independent person with his desires and needs. Recognize that he will not be able to obey your dictates all his life. He needs to learn how to live independently and be able to make the right choice. This applies to desires, actions, choice of profession, life partner, etc. The sooner he learns to make informed choices, defend his point of view, take responsibility for himself and fulfill his plans, the more successful his life will be.
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Listen carefully to your child and think about the reasons for his actions. You should learn to distinguish whims from anxiety and inability to express what excites him. Do not want to eat, sleep or walk? Pay attention to whether everything is in order with his health. Don't want to do some work? Try to help him, strengthen his confidence in his abilities. In order for a child to grow into a full-fledged personality, one should not indulge his whims, but his needs should not be ignored either.
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If a child tries to manipulate you with the help of whims, inappropriate behavior or screaming, do not indulge in his ridiculous requirements, but try to behave calmly and steadily. Invite him to think about why he needs it, explain why you can’t do it or why you can’t do it. The child must understand that not all his desires are fulfilled immediately, and do not be capricious and scream in order to be heard. In addition, try to convey to his consciousness the fact that he is not alone, that all the pleasures in the family are equally divided, and that you also have your desires and needs. When he understands this, he adapts much faster in the children's team and in adult life.
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Prepare your child for communication with other children and adults. Teach him to share toys, get acquainted, start a conversation, etc.
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Be sure to listen to the desires and opinions of your child, especially if you have to solve a question that relates directly to him. For him to respect himself as a person, it is necessary that he understand that he deserves this with his actions and words.
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Do not neglect the help of the child, especially when he offers it himself, and also turn to him often for help yourself, even if this help is purely symbolic. And if the child began to do something, do not interrupt him, otherwise he will think that you do not like his work.
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If you promised something to a child, keep your promise. If you are not sure that this can be done, it is better to refrain from promises. This should be the style of your behavior, then the child will keep his word.
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Talk to your child more often. Share your knowledge, preferences, thoughts with him. Sincerely interested in his thoughts and deeds. Maintain his interests. He must be aware of your life. And if he understands that his life is not indifferent to you, he will gladly go towards you.