The issue of trust is especially worrying for people who are engaged in business and sales. It is very important for them to quickly establish business contacts with partners or increase the influx of customers. Many books have been written for them on this subject. But in ordinary life, such a skill will not hurt if you want to win over a person.
Instruction manual
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Scientists say that sympathy arises in the first minutes of communication unconsciously. This ability is inherent in humans at the genetic level. Therefore, first of all, pay attention to your appearance. Try to work to increase your attractiveness. Because there is no escape from the fact that beautiful people are more trusted.
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When making contact with a person, think about clothing: extravagant outfits and those that stand out too much in the surroundings are alarming. Your clothes should correspond to the event at which you are present; in ordinary cases, look for something cozy, warm at home, without sharp contrasts.
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Do not forget that trust always causes a kind, slightly distracted smile. When communicating with a person, do not make your face tense and gloomy. Be polite and intelligent, somehow demonstrate your good breeding.
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If you have already made eye contact with a person and begin to communicate, try not to look away during the conversation, if you do not want to be caught in insincerity. But, of course, to “strain” someone with a staring look is also unacceptable.
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If a person is closed to you and subconsciously tries to isolate himself from contacts, try to take the same position that he is in, and then, having seized the convenient moment, give something to him. Psychologists say that in this case, your interlocutor opens up and becomes more friendly.
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Try to "mirror" the gestures of your interlocutor. By repeating his own movements, you give a signal that you understand him. And this is credible. But in no case do not copy human behavior so that it is striking, otherwise your behavior may be perceived as a mimicry.
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Of great importance is how you behave. Confidence in a person causes his confidence in his abilities, skills, eloquence. If you show yourself competent in some matters, the degree of sympathy for you will increase many times.
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Listen carefully to what and what the interlocutor says. Everyone has some key phrases or words that are worth remembering and using in their speech. If you can tune in to the right wave, you will be perceived as a very pleasant person. And if you remember some other little things and make it clear that the person’s opinion is not indifferent to you, they will begin to trust you even more.
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Learn to identify those moments when people want to hear certain things, and speak. You can emphasize the merits of another person, insert a compliment to the place, etc.
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People love to get information about those they come in contact with. Therefore, you will inspire more confidence if you tell something about yourself. Try to speak sincerely and not invent anything. If you do not want to publish something, then it is better to remain silent. In no case should you praise yourself: better mention a couple of small flaws. And try not to "flood" the interlocutor with the flow of information, otherwise it will appear that you do not know how to keep secrets with you.