Even a strong and confident person may need the support of loved ones. Words of encouragement are appropriate when a person is bewildered, afraid to do something, hesitates. But it’s not enough to find the necessary phrase, it is also important to pronounce it correctly.
Instruction manual
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Encourage your loved ones instead of reproaching them. For example, if a child did a homework poorly and received an unsatisfactory mark, you need not shout at him, but to say the least, that next time he will certainly achieve more. Such words are stronger than swearing and reproaches and often lead to the desired result.
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Say words of approval affectionately. Never say: "Everything will be fine with you, you will manage everything yourself, just leave me alone." Show your participation, do not be angry and do not be indifferent. It is better not to support a person at all than to say good words to him in an angry voice in the hope that he will lag behind.
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Ask if you need help, if you can do something to correct the unpleasant situation. Ask questions, pre-setting the person to a favorable answer. For example, say: "Everything will be fine with us, right?" or "Nothing terrible really happened, right? Can it still be fixed, right?"
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Do not forget about non-verbal exposure. Smile, pat the man on the shoulder, hug. The child can be affectionately taken by the hand or patted on the head. Never say words of encouragement with a sad or angry face. If you smile, your interlocutor will probably mirror your smile and feel more confident.
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If you want to encourage a person who does not dare to take any action, talk about the future, not about the present. For example, if your friend wants to quit smoking, you don’t need to pay attention to the negative aspects - spending on cigarettes, bad breath, etc. Better tell him how good it will be when he gets rid of his addiction. Positive phrases will help to encourage and encourage the execution of an action, while negative phrases often offend and humiliate.