Often you can observe a situation where a team uses one or more of its members for the role of a scapegoat. People living this role have a hard time. Is there any way to get out of this role?
The main reasons for assigning the role of the scapegoat to a person are low self-esteem, hidden ambitions and disrespect for others. What to do if you realize that this role is relevant to you? How to overcome the influence of the team?
1. Analyze the causes of low self-esteem.
Usually the cause of low self-esteem is an unfavorable or inadequate relationship in the parent family. If a child is treated as the cause of family failures and the failed life of one of the parents, then inevitably the child absorbs this attitude and reproduces it further in life. It is difficult to resolve these situations and realize all the negative scenarios received in the parental family. In most cases, the help of a psychologist will be required.
2. Realize the hidden ambitions and desire for superiority over other people and abandon them.
Here you need to honestly admit to the presence of these aspirations and not support them. You need to observe yourself for a sufficiently long time and track these desires. When they arise, and they can appear for quite a long time, you just need to observe them and try not to embody them in life, because now you understand that their cause is the destructive events experienced in the past. Try to find activities that will benefit others. So you can bridge the gap between you and others, which was previously expressed in the experience of rejection from others and your own desire to reject.
3. Develop a sense of respect for other people.
A person who sincerely respects other people simply cannot be in the role of a scapegoat. Others simply do not have a reciprocal desire to constantly "put in place" and humiliate such a person. However, sincerely respecting people is not so simple if this quality is not there initially. This skill needs to be cultivated and developed.
Write for this a list of 20 points of what you can respect each person in the team or the team as a whole. This exercise should first be done regularly, and it will help to gradually focus on positive qualities and develop the ability to respect other people.
So, to get out of the role of "scapegoat", it is necessary to do serious internal work to change yourself. Some steps can be done independently, but somewhere the help of a specialist will be required. However, it is quite possible to change yourself and take a more constructive position when interacting in a team.