Modern research shows that even stable relationships are a prerequisite for mental and physical health. The ideal solution is to avoid scandalous, nervous, quick-tempered people, not to communicate with those who are difficult for you as a partner or interlocutor. Well, if possible, but what if the conflicting person is your colleague or family member?
Instruction manual
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Whenever possible, avoid those that lead to disagreement. If you have different views on politics, religion, literature or the behavior of modern youth, do not talk about it, if you are attracted to such a conversation and strongly provoke, try to change the subject or just leave the premises, citing urgent matters.
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When dealing with a complex conflict person, do not console yourself with the illusion that you can change something in him, make him look at himself from the side, listen to criticism. Such your behavior will only lead to a defensive reaction, and therefore to an escalation of tension. Let him live his life, and live yours yourself. Remember that you do not need to be good for everyone, be friends with everyone or be all loved, just keep your communication to a minimum and distance yourself as much as possible.
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Keep calm. Even people who are friendly to each other in a stressful situation can start screaming, waving their arms, reacting too emotionally to everyday things. If you also spark, conflict cannot be avoided. Harness your emotions and show great endurance - this will only be a plus for you.
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Listen to what you are told. Do not interrupt the interlocutor. Many conflicts occurred due to the fact that someone neglected this rule. Even if you disagree with something, remember that listening to the speaker is a simple courtesy rule.
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Look for compromises. Go to negotiations and believe that a solution that suits everyone - exists. To find something that suits everyone is a task for a flexible and creative mind, convince yourself and your partner that you are the owners of just such a mentality and your desire to solve a problem will most likely lead to its solution, pleasant for both parties.
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Change body language. When you see a person whose communication with you does not cause positive emotions, you, as a rule, shut yourself off in every possible way - fold your arms over your chest, turn away, and avoid looking at him. Such behavior can subconsciously hurt your colleague or household and thereby provoke a conflict. Take care of yourself - try to maintain a relaxed open posture, and maintain eye contact in a conversation.
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Be friendly. Make an effort on yourself and find something good in the person you face day after day. Remember this, wishing him a good day, compliment his clothes, work, cooking, if they deserve it. Do not be servile, but keep an even positive attitude.