Some consider pity a positive emotion, while others attribute it to a negative emotion. Most often, pity does not help to correct a negative situation or only exacerbates it.
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A person who pities an unfortunate person who is in a difficult situation, a friend, is considered kind and generous. The object of pity feels support, and together they begin to complain about an evil fate, not trying to change anything. Pity in some cases is a completely useless emotion, because of it spoils the mood of people who really want to help a person. No less dangerous is self-pity.
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A person begins to blame others for his failures and circumstances, to feel sorry for himself, without thinking about his own guilt. To find a solution to a problem and fix the situation, you need positive emotions. Pity is a negative feeling, because it prevents a person from concentrating and changing something.
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Moreover, such a reaction from the people around him greatly humiliates a person. Almost no one wants to pity their actions, behavior or conversation.
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Weak individuals who want to shift the solution of their problems to the wrong shoulders constantly complain to more successful friends and relatives. For such people, pity is an occasion to curse an unfortunate fate or other people.
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It’s much easier to pity someone than to really help him. In order not to aggravate a person’s already depressed mood, one should not spare, but compassion. These are, at first glance, synonyms, but in reality, these feelings are different.
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A person sympathetic to someone else’s grief does not feel passive pity, but understands his interlocutor and is ready to help him or offer a plan for overcoming a difficult situation. A good friend will not assent to complaints, but will try to reassure the person and will also remain calm.
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Therefore, pity cannot come from a truly close person. Close people will not waste time on sterile emotions. Ordinary acquaintances or friends, on the contrary, will feel sorry for the person, secretly rejoicing that this trouble did not happen to them.
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The worst form of this feeling is self-pity. If a person himself does not want to admit his mistakes, no one will help him.