The ability to stand your ground is a more valuable thing than it might seem at first glance. It comes to someone itself, in the process of growing up, and someone has to work hard to develop it. Below are a few tips that anyone who wants to learn how to say no to will need to learn.
Instruction manual
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Most often, people who doubt their innocence are inclined to agree with the opinions of others. Therefore, the first thing to do is to cope with timidity and uncertainty and finally believe in yourself. To do this, in principle, any psychological training aimed at improving self-esteem, personal growth, etc. There is also a wealth of literature on “practical psychology” and NLP.
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Defeat your fear. Sometimes for this you do not need to apply titanic work, just smile and say to yourself: "You can do it!"
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Sometimes, in order to refuse something, it is not at all necessary to say no. Instead, you can use the language construct: "yes, but …", "I would love to, but …". If your interlocutor nevertheless continues to insist on his own, do not despair, you have at least two options to end the discussion: changing the subject of the conversation or ending the conversation. In the first case, turn your attention to something external, not related to the essence of the issue. For example, like this: "Ah, I remembered what I wanted to tell you!" or "Look, this is not (insert the name of a friend) is there?" In the second case, to the next persuasion, answer: "Well, I understand. I'll think about it." Both that, and another operates faultlessly.
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Show disagreement with all your appearance. You shouldn’t grimace, but it’s quite possible to cross your arms over your chest or rest against their sides, or move away, make an absent-minded bored look. If this does not help, go on the offensive - take a step forward, reducing the distance between you, or start zealously gesturing. Both are unlikely to appeal to your opponent.
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“Walk in circles, ” ask additional questions, express doubts, not answering either yes or no. He will lose patience and lag behind.
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And, for dessert, the easiest (albeit cowardly) way - you can’t refuse (refuse) - just leave under a plausible pretext (you need to answer a phone call, urgent matter, wait at work, etc.).
note
Understand the main thing: to express one’s own opinion does not mean offending someone who does not agree with him. The main thing here is how to say no. Harshly and categorically pronounced, it will undoubtedly hurt, but will not leave the interlocutor a chance to persuade, while soft and reasoned will not offend, but leave the “battlefield” for the opponent.