The joy of awareness of motherhood cannot be expressed in words. You need to feel it: it flies out of the most secret rooms of the heart, like a bird and tweets without ceasing. The pain is forgotten, the tears dry, and now a small warm lump sniffs at your chest. And then what? One day passed, second, third. There are tears, nerves, resentment, anger, despair - a bouquet of inexplicable emotions. This condition is called postpartum depression. If she knocked on your door, “chase her with a wet broom”, not yielding a single step, and you will surely cope.
Instruction manual
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Take it easy. As soon as you feel that a tantrum is about to begin, go to the window, open the window and breathe in fresh air. Take a mirror, look at yourself and say aloud how beautiful, confident, calm, and the best mom you are. Self-hypnosis not only improves mood, but also programs the body for favorable events.
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When cool, do an analysis. The reason for tears is always there, and not even one. The reason may be: lack of sleep, overwork, lack of communication, change of social status and related changes, dissatisfaction with personal needs, fear for the baby, lack of attention and help to your person.
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In order to eliminate annoying factors. Sleep is the key to health and good mood. Sleep during the day with your child, washing and ironing will wait. Do not try to be an ideal mother and mistress at the same time, you are a mother, this is the main thing. Your refrigerator is not unfrozen, and the flowers wilted - nothing, and you can live like that, most importantly - your condition, which is very acutely felt by the baby. If you do not have time and energy for spring cleaning, but they really are not, do not reproach yourself for this. And do not let others poke you with household chores; let them help rather than chat.
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Mom’s life changes in one day. There is no place for dancing until the morning, midnight calls of girlfriends and sitting in a beauty salon for three hours. Priorities are changing. Head you realize this, but your "I" is still resisting. It is especially difficult for those women whose violent activity did not stop during pregnancy. You worry that all your abilities and talents are reduced to baby diapers, as a result of an incomprehensible mood and negative. Try to set aside an hour for yourself in your high-speed daily routine. Devote this time to your favorite pastime, a hobby. Set a goal - to sew an evening dress for the holiday, and day by day, go to the desired little by little. So you will realize that you are doing something important and useful.
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Lack of communication. Do not be offended if your friends begin to move away, because now your interests are slightly diverging. They do not understand the stories about choosing cereals and diapers, nor are you inspired by the love affairs of third parties that you have not even seen in your eyes. Try to communicate on your favorite topics, once a week hang on the phone like in the good old days. Look for a compromise in communication, which you can still talk about with enthusiasm. As for those sore, here you can find help online portals for mothers. The forum not only introduces you to the same mothers as you do, but also allows you to share experiences, find answers to questions and receive expert advice.
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Dissatisfaction with personal needs, alas and ah. Unfortunately, you can only calm yourself mentally, tolerate a little, and it will become easier. Choosing between the desire to wash your hair or make a baby formula, you choose the second. This is more important. At such moments when you are angry, remember how much you wanted the crumbs to appear and do all the work with a smile.
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Depression may well cause fear for the little man. How to keep, how to bathe, feed, wear, walk. And what if something happens? Stop. If not. Perform all common sense manipulations. If you doubt something, seek help from a nurse, to literature, to experienced mothers. Do not exaggerate and think objectively, do not attract negative thoughts.
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Help. It is needed as air in the next couple of months from the moment a newborn appears in the house. If you have grandparents, do not be shy, ask them to help. Let them walk for an hour on the street, and you can cook dinner or relax in the bathroom. As for the father of the child, everything is ambiguous here. Having decided to have a baby, a man should be ready for responsibility. Not just to keep the baby, but also to be able to change the diaper, put to bed, feed and all the rest. From the first days of your adaptation after the maternity hospital, teach your husband to care for the newborn. While you are doing one thing, let dad entertain the little one. Otherwise, the fathers are lazy and do not want to fulfill your requests for various reasons.
note
Do not "go in cycles" on the body - excess weight, folds, extensions. Everything will return to normal over time with the right regimen and personal care. Now the most important thing is the baby’s health, and for this he needs a calm, sweet, kind, loving mother.
Useful advice
Look for the pros in everything that happens, nothing just happens.