The nature of man is such that he simply needs to communicate with other people, share emotions and impressions with them, talk about events and interesting people. But what if you are the target of discussion?
Instruction manual
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Any discussion can be both positive and negative. People often talk about the successes of their friends, but even more often they talk about them or share rumors. Of course, any opinion of people, especially expressed behind their backs, can be unpleasant. After all, it is usually very far from the truth, which is actually the opinion of the person who is being discussed. However, any behavior has its own reasons and it will be necessary to find out if you want to stop discussing your personality.
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When conversations about you and such discussions are unpleasant for you, the surest means is to tell the person directly about this, to find out the reason for such conversations. Perhaps for some reason other people are unhappy with your behavior or attitude. Maybe you offended them with something, but they can’t decide to tell you about it. So they found a peculiar way of revenge. There can be many reasons for this, the main thing here is to find out them and talk with people openly. Be calm, friendly, do not try to put yourself in the best light. You need to listen to the opinion of the person and find a calm answer for him that would lead to a solution to the problem.
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And then it is already possible to act according to circumstances. You will probably be surprised at the cause of the discontent, but nevertheless apologize to the offended and explain your behavior. In most cases, this should lead to reconciliation, especially if you sincerely desire it. You may even have to explain your motives to a group of people, but you need to find the strength to do this in order to build relationships.
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But even if reconciliation did not happen, or it’s just nice for a person to discuss you behind your back, to say disgusting things, if his resentment against you does not go away, you will know that you have done everything possible. Let the person’s behavior be on his conscience, you don’t have to guess, you can just stop communicating with this subject. This is a good way even when discussions of your personality are being spoken to you. Do not pay attention to them, neither such people, nor their evil thoughts are worth your dignity and tranquility.
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But what you can’t do in this situation is to adopt the model of behavior of such people and start discussing them. There is no sense or dignity in such actions, and you will quickly turn into those whose behavior was condemned so recently. In the end, is it really worth wasting your energy and nerves on those who use such low methods and even more like them?
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However, not only your negative aspects and mistakes can be discussed, but also successes. And although some people are unpleasant even such a manifestation of attention, you do not need to blame those who praise you. Thank them and convince them to try not so actively. And rejoice for yourself and at least a little start to be proud.