Love cannot be controlled. The choice of the chosen one or the chosen one happens, as it were, beyond our will, and sometimes it falls far from the best moral people. Attraction arises on its own. What to do if you have managed to fall in love with a drinking woman? What if your woman is an alcoholic?
Instruction manual
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They say that female alcoholism is not treated. This is not true.
Much depends on the environment and what this environment gives to a woman with alcoholism. If a woman experiences severe pressure on the psyche, an acute lack of love, emotional discomfort - she will look for a way to relieve stress, relieve mental pain. If it is surrounded by love and attention - the desire for alcohol can weaken, or even completely disappear. It should be understood that women who drink are people with an unstable psyche, therefore it is very important to create an environment around the woman that promotes a sober lifestyle and emotional balance. And ideally, a loving man next to such a woman should be prepared for the fact that he will often have to play the role of her personal psychologist. And not many are capable of this.
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Every misfortune has a reason. The disease can be cured, first of all, by understanding the deep causes of its occurrence. Only then can we talk about healing.
The causes leading to alcohol dependence in women are often complex and do not lie on the surface. This may be a bad heredity, and trauma experienced in youth, and the death of a loved one, and psychological problems - self-doubt, jealousy, a feeling of inner loneliness.
In a word, a person has many reasons for drunkenness. But some drink, others do not. So the main reason for female alcoholism is still a weakness of character. All that a loving man can do for her is to protect her from breakdowns and take care that the woman does not have a desire to get drunk. In other words - you need to try to injure her psyche as little as possible. And this is often not easy, as women, prone to alcoholism, themselves are looking for a reason to breakdown, are provocateurs of conflicts, subconsciously form a situation that can "justify" the use of alcohol.
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The best way to combat a woman’s alcoholism is through ongoing prevention. It is necessary to create conditions under which she cannot drink, even if she wants to. A man should remember that in the house in which the drinking woman lives, there should not be alcohol. A woman prone to alcoholism should not even hear the smell of alcohol. He himself must put an end to alcohol. This is difficult to do, because the world, colleagues, friends - everything will provoke, tease, seduce. Great will and rigidity is required in resolving such issues. Most likely, the problematic couple will even have to lose most of their friendly contacts. Understanding friends will not even allow the thought that you can come to the house with a drink or even simply - while intoxicated. And those who are indifferent to what is happening with the problem pair simply should not come into the house. It is worth considering whether “friendships” are needed at all, thanks to which the life of a loving problem couple includes things that destroy relationships, health and psychological comfort.
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Often the need for alcohol provokes aggressiveness. It is in almost every person. With the right approach, aggressiveness is sublimated, processed in a desire to influence the world around us. Someone, like Adriano Celentano in the movie "The Taming of the Shrew, " cuts firewood - while someone draws paintings, hunts, devotes free time to activities related to the processing of excess adrenaline.
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Perfectly reduces internal aggression sex.
A loving man can relieve alcohol addiction in a beloved woman in a radical way: for example, take a vacation at his own expense, take his beloved to a secluded place where there will be no opportunity to drink alcohol, and devote time to strengthening relationships, romance and sex. If the relationship of a problematic couple is based on mutual attraction, it will be much more interesting to study “Kama Sutra” with a lover of a woman with a weakness for alcohol than to taste the most refined alcoholic drinks. As a rule, such a “vacation for two” tidies up the internal psychological mechanisms and makes it possible to completely cure a woman of alcohol dependence.
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Love is capable of performing miracles. A loving man should understand: a woman will not stop drinking until she wants it herself. It is important to create the prerequisites so that she herself wants to do this. A strong lever for this can serve as a woman’s attachment to a man, a fear of losing him. True, this psychological mechanism works as long as a woman sees an object of love and passion in a man. When relations are ruined and disappear, disappointment or hatred appears - you cannot do without the help of a good psychologist.
Useful advice
If for a woman prone to alcoholism, it matters how others treat her, an excellent way to bring her “to life” can be a home video. A man with strong nerves can arrange such a shooting, and then - to demonstrate to a woman how she looks from the side when she is drunk. This lesson is cruel in its own way and requires a certain cynicism from a man. And its action depends on how deeply rooted the "disease" in the female psyche. Sometimes the shock caused by watching such a video is so strong that a woman can stop drinking. However, in cases where the disease is started, the video will not help, and the help of a professional narcologist and psychologist will be required.