If family life is in trouble, you should consult a specialist. The psychologist can both listen and give advice on how to proceed. But it is important to understand that hiding the details may not give a complete picture, which means errors will occur.
Instruction manual
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Turning to a professional, be prepared that you will have to tell a lot of details of your personal life, that you will need to answer questions. In communication, shame, embarrassment or withholding of facts is not appropriate. The master must understand what is happening to help, to give the right advice. The conversation will be not only about treason, but also about your life, about the events of recent years. There will be very sensitive issues that are not always pleasant, the conversation will be about sex, habits and preferences in different areas.
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Remember that the psychologist does not want to hurt you, he is only trying to show you what is happening from a different angle. Do not deny his words, but listen. Sometimes emotions and experiences greatly distort the truth, maybe your vision is not entirely correct, and you need to find out about it. Do not get annoyed if the conversation becomes not very pleasant, not the process is important, but the result. Think about what you’ve heard, analyze what has been said, try to enter the position of your husband, understand his position. Aggression and accusations will not help to decide anything, and calm acceptance will open up new opportunities.
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Speaking about the situation, focus on facts, not feelings. Your experiences are very important, but the overall picture is made up of events. Do not forget to give your assessment of what is happening, as well as describe the reasons that you know and recognize. Usually there are a few more points that led to treason; when working with a psychologist, you yourself will soon begin to notice them. Usually not one person is to blame, but two. You could provoke a spouse with your behavior, and you need to understand this in detail.
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A professional will never make decisions for you, he will allow you to see the situation in different ways, explain how all this looks from the side of your spouse, understand the real reasons and the possibility of correcting them. But at the same time, he will not advise - to leave or stay, divorce or close his eyes. The final decision is always up to the client, but with more facts, you can change your life in any direction. After such a difficult decision, the next stage of work will begin - the restoration and harmonization of life.
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Working with such a difficult situation takes several sessions. Sometimes a person has to visit a specialist’s office for 3-6 months to get out of the circumstances. But each visit will give relief, will be able to reduce stress, and this is very stimulating. Tune in to long-term cooperation, it is in it that the key to success. Regular visits will give self-confidence, as well as the strength to build your future further.