A dispute is an attempt to find the right solution in a certain issue, a way to prove the correctness of one’s position and the ability to sparkle with intelligence. But it is important in such a discussion not to humiliate an opponent, not to go on insults and be able to correct attitudes.
Instruction manual
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You can start a dispute only if you are well versed in some topic. It is not worthwhile to engage in a polemic that you know no better than many. After all, you have to give some facts, prove your position, and without certain data it is difficult. In order not to be wrong, it is better to remain silent sometimes.
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Decide for yourself, why do you need this argument? If for the sake of self-affirmation, do not get involved in it. Circumstances can be different and you will not always be in the right light. If for the sake of the search for truth, then it is worth a try. But be prepared that you may be wrong, and then you have to accept defeat, and this is humiliating. A dispute may arise between other people, and entering into it will allow the details to appear, but whether the participants in the duel need this, because their motives are not clear.
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In any dispute, it is necessary to clarify some definitions and terms. How often people say the same thing, but call it by different names. Therefore, discuss this in advance so that everyone understands what exactly is meant. This often leads to the end of the dispute, as the terminology sometimes gives rise to disagreement.
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Give your arguments, but formulate them briefly, do not get carried away with the details. Details are needed only in rare cases, and they greatly lengthen any discussion. First, express the main positions, and only if asked, add color. The sharper the answer, the more powerful it seems. The ability to concisely express itself in the eyes of other people will make you a very valuable conversationalist.
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Never go on insults, even if the opponent is trying to bring you to this. There are disputes that turn into fights, but you do not need to stoop to this level. Do not try to humiliate other participants in the debate. It is important to show that they are wrong, and not to deprive them of dignity in the eyes of the audience. Respect and calm make the argument useful.
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If you agree with the opponent in something, tell him about it. A person’s position can include many different things. If something, in your opinion, is true, do not hide it. But object to something else. This is a very subtle move, it leads to the fact that the interlocutor becomes softer, it is easier to come to a compromise. Also know how to admit your ignorance, if you do not have any data, you do not need to invent them. Declare that you did not know everything or do not have any arguments about this. Only a strong person can say that there is a gap in his education, but it is impossible to know everything.
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Always speak with confidence. The delivered speech allows you to be convincing. Do not raise your voice, but does not say anything too quietly. The flow of information should be energetic, this will help to take a leading position, will lead listeners to your side.