Sometimes it is very difficult to determine who is our friend and who is the enemy. We often mistaken for loved ones those who are capable of betrayal. This happens because there are rules of decency, which some develop into flattery. So it seems that if a person smiles, says nice things - that means he is a friend. But it turns out not so simple. So how do you recognize the very true friend whose words and deeds are absolutely sincere?
Instruction manual
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If you have any troubles in your life, call or write to someone you think is your friend (you can even cheat and just come up with a small problem to see how a person will react). A friend in need is a friend indeed. This folk wisdom is, of course, true, but only taking into account some errors. The fact is that many people are prone to pity. Therefore, usually, when something bad happens, those who may lament in your house may appear: "Ah, what a poor thing you are …". Or something similar. This attitude is definitely not friendly. In such situations, the person who truly cherishes you, first of all, will listen. Then he will try to give useful advice, maybe even help, if possible. His sympathy will not make you miserable, but, on the contrary, will add strength - because you will understand that you are not alone.
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Try to borrow money from a friend. The ability to share material wealth testifies to the indifference to your fate. After all, most people live by the principle: friendship is friendship, and I won’t give it back to anyone. Of course, this is not the main factor in the relationship, but a true friend will never give a sharp rejection. If there is no money now, then he will ask to wait (for a salary, for example). This method is good in the case when you are very successful in work and well-off. The slightest rumor that finances are over, and that a career has rolled downhill, will remove all flatterers. You simply will not be interested in them - they will easily find another object of admiration.
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Remember that a loved one will never spare time on you. He will gladly agree to meet, find a "window" even in the busiest schedule. He will not look for excuses and reasons not to see each other, but, on the contrary, he will try to find a reason for such a pleasant event. Shopping, lunch in a cafe, a walk - everything will come with a smile. And how genuine she is, you have to understand.