Lies in one form or another can destroy even the most tender and pure love. The emotional wound becomes sometimes unbearable for the deceived, and the further development of relations seems impossible. If you do not intend to leave because of a partner’s mistake, reconsider your attitude to the event.
Instruction manual
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Philosophical attitude. In fact, none of the people is worthy of either love, much less forgiveness for any mistakes. Both are given to us as a gift and speak of the generosity and spiritual strength of the giver. Show strength and generosity. Do not remind your partner of his misconduct and do not remember for yourself. There will be a day when you need his forgiveness and understanding. Believe me: your connection and relationships are much more important than the mistake of one of the partners.
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Ironic attitude. Life is always very serious, full of difficult moments and tortured decisions. If we always perceived her in this vein, we would go crazy. Therefore, nature has endowed us with a sense of humor that protects us from the absurdity, illogicality and excessive severity of life. Although it’s very difficult to joke at such a moment, smile at your partner and joke, but only sincerely, for example: “well, you’ll have to be executed now
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Illogical attitude. Of course, you need to talk about what happened in order to dot all the i. But in no case do not start a scandal. Describe your feelings in a calm voice. Do not start a scandal, do not wait for an apology. Just say you know. After an hour, a day, continue to behave as if nothing had happened. By all means convince yourself that nothing serious has really happened. Continue to enjoy life together.
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Do not punish your partner, especially with your forgiveness. Do not show your sacrifice and dedication. He himself is already feeling remorse, knowing that he hurt you, and even twice: first with an act, and then with an attempt to hide the act. Seeing your theatrical sufferings, he will not endure and, perhaps, will offer to break off relations so as not to torment himself or each other.