The quarrels are different: serious and not so, when both are guilty, or when the initiator of the scandal is someone alone. In any case, passions subside, grievances are forgotten, and it is time to put up. In order to do this correctly, it is necessary to determine the cause of the incident and its place in this statement.
Instruction manual
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If for one reason or another you turned out to be the same villain (villain) who raised a storm in a glass of water, then you want, you don’t want, but you have to apologize. For almost anyone with pride and inner core, apologizing is much harder than forgiving. But this will only make it easier for everyone.
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If you are not ready to come up, you better not do it. Such an apology will not only not bring relief, but will leave an unpleasant aftertaste. From the side, as a rule, it looks like a handout. Only a sincere apology coming from the heart will help correct the situation and establish emotional closeness. A person should feel that you really regret and did not want to harm him.
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The mirror situation is when you are touched. If the offender came to you with confession, let the person speak, do not make an unfortunate expression on your face. Try to take his place and understand what guided him in this situation. Remember how it is difficult to approach first when he was wrong. Usually, if a person comes by himself, he already regrets. Your task is to listen, understand, accept and forgive.
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Forgiveness, as well as apology, must come from the heart. Do not let go of sins. We are all not saints and, one way or another, throughout our lives we are on the opposite side of the barricades. However, the cases are different, and it is worth forgiving only that which is possible to forgive. But at the level of emotions, one must learn to let go of any situation. First of all, for yourself.
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The most common situation is when both are to blame. In this case, it does not matter who takes the first step. The most important thing is to meet each other. To be able to listen to each other, to take the position of the opponent and find the strength in himself to admit his own guilt. Having analyzed the situation, try not to return to this issue and fulfill the data in the words of the promise. Otherwise, the level of trust with each new quarrel will begin to decline, and going to reconciliation will be more and more difficult.