A person who does not want to accept reality is doomed to live in a fantasy world. At first, this is a deliverance for him and helps to maintain a sense of confidence. But gradually, he drives himself into this trap, losing touch with what is happening and breaking away from reality, which, sooner or later, he will have to open his eyes. The sooner you begin to perceive reality as it is, the more you can achieve in life.
Instruction manual
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Looking up from reality, you are simply forced to make mistakes, because you will incorrectly evaluate people and current events, phenomena. Moreover, this will happen in any case - you look at the world through pink glasses or see everything in a gloomy color. In order to adequately perceive the surrounding reality, you need to understand and impress upon yourself some important points.
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Whether you like it or not, the concept of justice does not always work and good does not always conquer evil. Of course, you should always hope for the best, but this does not mean to exclude the possibility of trouble. You need to be prepared for them and not get depressed if they have nevertheless begun. It is better to treat them as inevitability and to direct their forces not at suffering, but at overcoming them.
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No one ever promised you happiness only after your birth. It really depends a lot on you. Happiness is not the result of big money or power. Know how to appreciate what you have and find it in any little thing - a sunbeam caressing spring greens, your baby’s smile, a friend’s hand resting on your shoulder in difficult times.
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Understand that you have the right to make mistakes and that it is normal when you make them. A mistake is not a tragedy, provided that you recognize it and draw the appropriate conclusions. No one is perfect, so also allow other people to be wrong. Give them the opportunity to fix what has been done.
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Accept that you cannot fix the existing reality. You can only reconsider your attitude towards her. People around you do not live the way you want it to, but the way they do it. They are not perfect: aggressive, stupid, narcissistic. But you must accept them as they are. Consider their qualities when planning a relationship, and you will not have to give up on them. It should not be taken as a betrayal that a person can change his views and plans, because everyone, above all, cares about their own well-being. If you are left in trouble, it just means that the person is looking in the other direction.
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You should not worry about the fact that reality does not correspond to your ideas about it. Accumulate your energy and direct it to do what you have in mind and do not waste yourself on something that you can’t redo.