Usually the news of pregnancy brings the future mom only positive emotions. But it’s still worth preparing for many changes in your life, including in communication with others. Surely many relatives, friends and even casual acquaintances will decide to teach a pregnant woman how to live her right now. And if sometimes the tips are useful and necessary, then most of them do not want to listen to them without the need.
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The most common advice from close and not very close people are medical recommendations. Such "assistance" from the side should not even be treated with caution, but with caution, and respond accordingly. Each pregnancy proceeds individually, therefore useful tips, even from a doctor, but given to another woman, will not necessarily suit every expectant mother. Only an observing physician is entitled to give medical recommendations after all tests and interrogations. When a woman comes across such "wise" advice, one can even answer somewhat sharply: "And my doctor says that
."or" My doctor and I concluded that it would be better
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The next group of tips are the so-called signs of pregnant women. Some of them, which are general recommendations for expectant mothers, are of course useful, but, most likely, every woman knows them anyway: not to lie on her back and stomach, not to sit cross-legged, etc. Advisers should be thanked and smiled for the said simple truths.
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Another part of prejudices about pregnancy can be perceived by women in different ways: someone really believes that you can’t buy clothes or things for the baby in advance, others take out almost everything from the shelves of children's stores, enjoying shopping with the future father, someone does not get a haircut and it doesn’t paint during the whole pregnancy, while others change their image almost every month. In this case, it all depends on the personal choice of the woman. But advisers should not be taken in hostility, you can just name your arguments, anyway, you will not argue with a pregnant woman.
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There are people who see negativity in everything, and to the people around them they mostly carry this negativity. During pregnancy, such people should be shunned, because both the process of childbirth and the state of the unborn baby depend on the mood and emotional balance. Frightening and scary details about the birth of friends or relatives, as well as horror stories on online forums, should not be listened to or read at all, stopping attempts to tell about your experience with the words "I am not interested in it" or even with the phrase "Everything will go well for me". And it is better to discuss any fears and worries with a doctor who will provide accurate information, and not someone else’s guesses.
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When outsiders intervene in the matter, and such intrusive and tactless people are also enough, it is better to respond to the advice with a smile and a nod, while letting it pass by your ears. Explanations that polite people do not stick with tips on the street, in transport or in the queue for tickets are most likely not to have the desired effect, and spending your strength and nerve cells on a future mother in disputes is not the best way to spend leisure time. If the adviser does not relent, you can play the “important call” situation and leave the visitor’s visibility range.
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You can listen to advice on the organization of childbirth, and it’s better to chat with recently giving birth friends or read reviews on the forums of specific maternity hospitals. You can discuss some issues and hear someone else's opinion about the presence of the father of the child at the birth, the coordinates of good doctors or conditions in the hospital, the possibility of being with the baby after childbirth, etc. Moreover, the final decision is still better for future parents, but with some arguments supported by other people's experience.
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Separately, it is worth mentioning the advice of future grandmothers. Most native people will never advise anything bad and probably wish only the best for children and future grandchildren, but times are changing: the conditions of childbirth, and medicine in general, have gone far ahead, and therefore some recommendations have lost their meaning. At the same time, one should not refuse help, and even less rude and offend them even with randomly abandoned words. It is better to smile, hug and sincerely thank them for their participation. Most likely, after giving birth, parents will have to turn to grandparents for help more than once, and therefore it is not worth spoiling the relationship.