The loss of a loved one changes life radically. But do not despair, such grief must be experienced and built all over again. Relatives will help to cope with experiences, and the right actions will shorten the period of suffering.
Instruction manual
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The tragedy happened, nothing can be changed, and we need to live on. You may cry, worry about this, but do not do it for too long. Find the strength to go forward. Return to work if it was, or find a new place to provide yourself with the necessary means of subsistence. Work will allow you to get distracted. The denser the chart, the better. After all, activity is the best cure for heartache.
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Do not look for your guilt in what happened, do not think that you could influence the circumstances, that you could change everything. These thoughts do not help to get out of mourning, but only destroy self-esteem, do not allow you to sleep peacefully at night. Do not create additional suffering for yourself, accept the fact that all this did not happen because of you. Also, do not try to find fault with others, do not make complaints to anyone, do not blame. These emotions will not help return a person.
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Learn to switch attention. Do not remember what happened, do not sort out moments from the past in your memory. It is very difficult not to do it, but a simple technique helps. Imagine yourself on the seashore or in a beautiful sunny meadow. Every time thoughts of the past appear, shift your attention to a fictitious corner. You can also start thinking about work, about children or hobbies. Such actions require training, in a few weeks it will be easier to perform them.
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Do something useful, such as sports. Visit the fitness club two to three times a week to distract yourself. It will take empty evenings, will provide an opportunity to relieve stress after a working day. Activity helps to cope with stress. For the first time, it is better to choose active classes, it can be aerobics, strip plastic, dancing, boxing. Exercise fatigue will bring relief, and sleep will be much stronger. Do not forget to take a contrast shower after class.
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Find a hobby that will occupy your brain. Someone will choose modeling, someone will write music. What suits you, no one will tell. Just try different options, today you can start singing, dancing, crocheting, growing flowers or collecting puzzles. It is necessary that a hobby be distracting, so that all his free time is devoted to him. This gives strength to live on, and in the future it can become a profitable job.
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Do not forget to chat with friends and relatives. You don’t need to call and intersect every day, but sometimes it’s worth keeping in touch. They will remind you of the past, but it’s not scary. You have general pain, but you should not talk about it. Choose neutral topics, come up with interesting activities, and not just discuss what happened. Starting a new life together is much easier.