There are girls who came up with a rather offensive name - "gray mouse." Someone likes not to stand out from the crowd, to be modest and shy, but most secretly dream of becoming like that friend who can find a common language with everyone and will be in the spotlight at any party. To become the same and show your individuality, you can perform some steps that, at least, will begin to reveal your personality to the world.
First, you need to draw an image of your ideal self. The one you want to be. Yes, do not immediately take on a makeup brush or buy an acid nail polish. First, just dream. When the image has formed, you can already begin to implement it. After all, not everyone wants to be a vamp woman with blood-red lips and with one glance to force men to stack in stacks. It is enough for someone to look as natural as possible, fit, and also learn not to get lost in the presence of strangers. The desired image is an important stage in any work on yourself.
Secondly, you need to work with your own self-esteem. While the internal work on oneself is not completed, one should not even go over to the external. Evaluate why you are squeezed, what you are shy of, and which complexes are asking outside. After the most important problems in self-acceptance are identified, it will become easier to work. When a person has adequate self-esteem, he will be able to respond to rudeness, and confidently say no, and defend his own point of view.
Thirdly, we must move on to a positive worldview. Every day you need to remind yourself that "I am the most charming and attractive
"and further on the text, which each defines for himself. Such auto-training really bears fruit. You see, a stranger on the street will wink even without active actions on your part. This item can be described as self-love. Allow yourself to be yourself, to love in yourself advantages and disadvantages, accepting yourself completely, and then it will become easier to relate to the world with positive.
Fourth, you need to think about appearance. It has long been known that there are no ugly people, you just need to be able to emphasize your charms and hide flaws. The most skilled persons generally turn their flaws into virtues. If you don’t like your own figure, go to the hall or to the stadium in the mornings, if you don’t enjoy the smile, go to the dentist, if the hairstyle resembles straw — to the beauty salon, if the wardrobe is more suitable for your grandmother from the second entrance - immediately to the store. There is a solution to any problem, the main thing is not to worry about this, but to start working.
Fifth, pay attention to the formation of communication skills. If barriers arise in communication, you must definitely find out their cause. If you can’t find out on your own, you can turn to a psychologist for help. When intrapersonal problems are resolved, changing behavior will be much easier. Set yourself first difficult goals (for example, chatting with 10 strangers in a day) and complete them. For now, do not let yourself go to bed. A dozen strangers per day is not so much. Just remember how many people you meet on the way to work.