A friendly and united family is one of the most important factors in the happy life of any person. Relatives should help and support each other, and not vice versa. But what should you do if it became obvious that your relatives can’t hear you at all?
For most people, family is sacred. Even if relations with relatives do not work out in the best way, one has to endure their causticity, moralizing, interference with one's personal life, restraining oneself so as not to express a bunch of unpleasant words in one's face. However, it is worth considering whether you need to endure all this and restrain yourself. Perhaps the time has come to break with them.
How to understand that it's time to delete relatives from life:
- They only remember kinship if they need help. All the rest of the time, people do not make themselves felt, but may not answer calls if you ask for something.
- Relatives constantly accuse of something, exuding a continuous negative, they are unhappy with everything. It is believed that life is built incorrectly. Look for flaws in actions, personal life, actively discuss them, making any claims.
- Communication with them negatively affects self-esteem. After talking with loved ones, my own insignificance, weakness and even dullness begin to be felt. Only a few days after communication, the mood improves.
- If you turn to relatives for advice, ask for help, talk about an unpleasant situation that recently happened, then they will put it out for public discussion. As a result, all surrounding people, and maybe neighbors, will know about the emergence of troubles.
- All the time they find some flaws in study, work, personal life. And the soulmate is considered a temporary phenomenon, and studying in life is unlikely to be useful, and the work leaves much to be desired.
- They constantly set an example of a relative living thousands of kilometers away. They lively discuss his life, income, character, believing that you need to strive to become like this person whom no one has personally seen in the past 20 years.
- They try to humiliate by any means, not shying away from swearing and insults. You need to live exclusively according to the rules they created, and if you violate them, you will have to listen to a lot of nasty things in your address.
- Impose their opinion, do not want to listen. If a relative claims that a certain person is not suitable as a friend, girlfriend or soulmate, then arguing with them is useless. And in order to confront, you must have a strong character, go to conflict.
- They expose the aggressor if something goes out of control. One has only to show willpower, to fight back, as they begin to accuse of aggressiveness and inadequacy. As a result, doubt about his innocence creeps in.
If you start to distance yourself from such people, they will in every way prevent this, so as not to lose control. The main thing is not to depend financially on relatives, otherwise it will be practically impossible to get rid of toxic relatives.