No matter how cultural you behave, scandalous people often try to unleash a scandal with you and drag you into an unpleasant conversation on your life path. Whether at home, at work, in transportation or in public places, if you are not prone to scandals, follow simple recommendations that will help protect yourself from scandalous people and preserve your nervous system.
Instruction manual
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Psychologists consider the main reason for expressing hostility and a penchant for scandals of difference. It doesn’t matter how you differ from the brawler, it can be your appearance, voice, manner of behavior, your successes or finances, the main thing is to understand that most often these are not personal reasons, but just a psychological phenomenon. We are afraid and do not accept what is different from us. One must learn to accept that all people are different. Disarm a scandalous person with your calm, indifference or positive.
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As in many other situations, one of the best ways to protect yourself from a scandal is a frank conversation. Try to express directly that you do not like his behavior. Explain that you are not a scandalous person and you do not like this way of talking. But, despite the fact that you are not scandalous, you will not tolerate being forcibly dragged into an unpleasant conversation. Hard tear off the brawler, if possible.
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Of course, not everyone has the courage and determination to say directly in person that you do not like it, or the situation simply does not allow this. In this case, we use small psychological tricks, so as not to harm our own psyche and mood. Try to mentally reduce the screaming brawler and cover it with an empty glass or jar. For a greater effect, you can make his voice look like a cartoon or tweet bird.
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Another technique is the construction of walls and partitions. Mentally build a wall between yourself and a scandalous person. It is important that you like this wall and protect it not from the whole world, but only from unpleasant influence.
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Try custom behavior. The main thing is that it is appropriate and does not adversely affect the brawler. If they start to scandalize you at home or in the office, you can try to drop something on the floor, ask the scandalist for help, in case of emergency, scream “fire”. This behavior disorientates the interlocutor for several seconds, and in most cases the scandalous mood disappears. You can also say later that you don’t understand anything when someone screams.
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When the situation allows, just get up and leave. Having previously told the scandalous person that while he is in this mood, you will not succeed in conversation. The main thing is to go into the zone of his inaccessibility. If the aggressor is a man, you can simply go to the women's toilet. And remember that if you use this option, you need to exit only when the brawler completely calms down.
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If, to one degree or another, scandals of various kinds often occur with you, and you fall under their influence, try to relieve the resulting stress. Use the power of wildlife, walk more, contemplate, get a houseplant or more often put a bouquet on the table. When taking a shower, think that water cleanses you, flushes the negative and fills you with new strength. If the aggressive energy received by you is strong, try to direct it in a different direction, switch it to work.