Some questions are complex, you can’t ask them so easily, you need to prepare for a long time, and even then you can’t always ask. Humble and shy people find it especially difficult: they more often than others avoid asking sensitive questions that can put their interlocutor in an awkward position.
Instruction manual
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Before asking a question, think what words to use for this. Some questions become much easier if you choose soft words for them. You also ask directly for sure, but you do not drive a person into a corner. This is a sign of respect, not weakness. Forcing someone to make excuses is a bad consequence of a sensitive issue, since this is no longer a question, not a manipulation. Try to ask in such a way as to get an answer if you really need it, and not blame or convict a person with your question.
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If the matter concerns a difficult problem for the interlocutor, then before you start a conversation on the desired topic, try to cheer him up or cheer him up. When a person comes in a good mood, it can be much easier for him to cope with any questions, even sensitive ones.
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Some questions are such that you need to ask them not in order to get an answer, but so that the person himself thinks about what he should answer you. If your problem is in this category, then tell your interlocutor right away that the question is complex and that he is not required to answer you right away. Generally not required to respond, possibly (if such a situation). But if the answer is important to you, then say that you are ready to wait. So that a person does not think to evade, it is imperative to inform him that you suffer and do not find a place for yourself, not understanding the situation.
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There are questions that are difficult, first of all, not for the person to whom you ask them, but for yourself. You are in a suspended position, and you need to find out. However, you do not want to burden the interlocutor or put pressure on him, because you are afraid that from a suspended state he will “send” you to the ground, and the blow will be rather painful. These are questions like “why don't you introduce me to your parents?” or "why are you avoiding intimacy with me?" and many others. Such questions must be asked. You can try your best to avoid this, but if you postpone such a question, you will regret that you did not solve the problem on time.
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To ask such a question, you can try using one of two methods. If the first does not work, then resort to the second, but it is better to start from the first. The first way is a negotiation table. Tell the person in advance that you want to discuss something with him. Get ready and gather your courage, choose the right words. Then lay out the problem without delay. If this does not work out at all or you cannot cope with emotions, then try to write a letter with a question. Give it directly to your hands, this is the best guarantee of receipt.
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Before asking a really awkward or delicate question, think about it, is it really necessary? It happens that you and so everything is clear. Not all questions need to be asked.