Jealousy in one degree or another is inherent in any normal person. Anyone who claims that he has never been jealous in his entire life is likely to be disingenuous or sincerely mistaken. Another thing is that it can take relatively soft, civilized forms, and it can turn into a living hell both the life of the jealous man himself and the life of the one who is dear to him! She sometimes pushes for the most unsightly acts. Sometimes this happens: a jealous person understands that he is acting stupidly, unworthy, but can not help himself. How to get rid of jealousy?
Instruction manual
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Try to increase your self-esteem. Because jealousy in its extreme, unsightly forms, as a rule, is characteristic of people with low self-esteem, obsessed with complexes. First of all, an inferiority complex. They are therefore overwhelmed with jealousy because they are not sure of their own attractiveness, virtues. It seems to them that if they take away a loved one, they will not be able to find their happiness with anyone else and will be doomed to loneliness.
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Take a look at yourself “from the side” and understand that sooner or later your behavior will push away from you the very person whom you are so desperately trying to keep!
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In no case do not dedicate your problems to relatives, friends, girlfriends. Especially girlfriends, even the closest! You don’t want a lot of people to soon start interestedly discussing: do you have a serious reason for jealousy, or is it just the fruit of your unhealthy imagination?
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In every possible way try to keep yourself in control, first of all, without arranging a showdown scene with strangers. If necessary, take sedative medications, preferably plant-based (valerian drops, etc.).
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Instead of such scenes, it is better to calmly talk with your loved one. Of course, face to face! Say that you love him, that he is dear to you, and therefore want your love not to be overshadowed by anything. And then explain what exactly you do not like, embarrasses, arouses your suspicions. Speak only in essence, not straying to minor details, without emotions, reproaches, especially scandals!
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If a loved one answers calmly, logically (albeit with annoyance or even resentment), trying to explain that your suspicions were unfounded - consider yourself lucky and no longer tempt fate. If he breaks out with reproaches and accusations, your relationship hangs in the balance. Think seriously about how to save them, and whether to save them.
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And in general, remember that strong jealousy is the destiny of weak, notorious, insecure people! Do you really want you to think exactly that?