It is probably impossible to find a person who would never be offended in his whole life. There is nothing strange in the fact of resentment, much less reprehensible, because the nerves are not iron. But if a person becomes too resentful, even if a correct and fair remark or a cheerful, good-natured joke is perceived by him painfully, this is already a signal: you need to change your behavior.
Instruction manual
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Make it a rule: do not rush to conclusions. If it seems to you that someone offended you, be sure to mentally take the place of this person and analyze his behavior. It is possible you will decide in the end that there was no offense at all.
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For example, you were counting on some specific help from a relative or friend. And, not having received it, they were offended. Try to convince yourself, because he has already helped you more than once, but now, probably, he really couldn’t. Maybe he did not have free money or free time? In the end, he might have other plans, he does not have to break them for the sake of you.
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Or the same relative (friend) made comments about you. Even in private, without witnesses, but still unpleasant. The first and most natural urge is to be offended. Such is human nature. Now consider: if you were indifferent to him, would he openly talk about your shortcomings, draw your attention to them? Of course not! Think about it, remember the saying "Better is the bitter truth than a beautiful lie." So why take offense at a person who sincerely wants to help you? Consider this criticism, draw the necessary conclusions.
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Suppose you were joked unsuccessfully. Even without any malicious intent, simply because the comedian is completely deprived of taste and tact. Really, it's a shame. But think: it’s simply pointless to show your grudge to such a joker. After all, he will not even understand her reasons. Show generosity and forgive this narrow-minded person.
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The exact opposite example: you were joked with evil, maliciously and more intentionally. It is with the desire to inflict mental pain. Is it possible to be offended? Yes, of course you can. But before that, think: after all, your ill-wisher must be waiting for just such a reaction. Your insult to him is like a balm for the soul. Better mentally tell yourself: “Well, no, I won’t give you such pleasure” and ignore him with an indifferent, contemptuous look. For him, it will be like a cold shower.