Tears are a splash of our strong emotions. Many people do not like to be seen crying because they do not want to seem weak. And so, perhaps, it will be unpleasant for anyone to cry in front of an opponent or offender. For such situations, use the proposed methods to learn how to hold back tears.
Instruction manual
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Avoid the situation. Once you feel that emotions have captured you and tears are ready to pour out of your eyes, imagine that this whole unpleasant situation did not happen to you. Close your eyes. You sit in the cinema and watch a movie. Focus on the picture. The same situation is happening on the screen that just happened to you, but now you are not a participant in this situation, you are a spectator watching everything from the side. Gradually, the color picture fades and becomes black and white, and then begins to decrease in size. Now she squeezed to half the screen, now to a quarter, and finally completely turned into a small dot. This method is based on the knowledge that we cry because of emotional involvement in the situation. However, as soon as you stop taking the situation to heart and take the position of an outside observer, the tears recede by themselves. The method has been tested many times and is practically trouble-free.
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Have pity on the person who offended you. When they offend us, we cry with self-pity. The essence of this method is to turn off this emotion. Think about why a person has offended you. Perhaps his business is much worse than yours, and he simply envies you. Perhaps the boss just scolded him, and he experienced fear and humiliation, which he could not resist and tore off at you. Even if you have no real excuse for the person who offended you, try to come up with them. The main thing now is to hold back tears, you will think about everything else later.
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If the reason for tears is not that you were hurt, but just nerves, try to calm down.The most effective way is to slowly count to 10, while breathing should be slow, breathing in deeply, and breathing out slowly as well. When you can cope with your nervous tension a little, drink some safe sedative: tincture of motherwort or valerian.
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What should not be done in any case If a person publicly ridiculed you or offended you with some harsh phrase, even if in private, and you couldn’t find out what to answer, you can guarantee that in the next few hours all you will do is invent worthy answers to replicas of the offender and
cry. The fact is that while you are returning to what has happened again and again, you are emotionally fixated on this situation and experience a natural anger at the offender and self-pity. It’s not easy to cope with yourself, but still it’s better to postpone thinking about what happened at least the next day, when the strongest emotions have already passed. And it’s never too late to come up with a worthy answer!
note
Tears are, first of all, a physiological reaction, a protective reaction to stress. There is very little psychology, so it’s almost impossible to learn how to control lacrimation. But you can try to minimize the level of stress at the time of the approaching cry, then there is a chance to stop the tears.
Useful advice
Tears are different in their origin, in nature, you can learn to restrain yourself in people, if you do not like so that there is no sussing around you, and then cry alone.