Composure is the ability in any, even tense, dangerous situation to maintain calm, self-control, not to succumb to fear and emotions. In such cases, composure is simply irreplaceable and can serve a person well. It will help him not to panic, to clearly weigh all the solutions and choose the best one. Moreover, such a person successfully avoids conflict situations at work and in the family circle.
Instruction manual
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One wise man said: "All people are slaves of their emotions." So try not to be their slave. Even if you are a hot, explosive person by nature, make every effort to keep yourself in control and not lose your temper.
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Some people tend to over-dramatize what is happening around them. The most trifling problem, a nuisance that is not worth attention, robs them of peace, it seems almost the end of the world. Therefore, they are in a hurry to react, throw out their emotions, not noticing that this not only puts themselves in an awkward position, but also makes others nervous. If you are such a person, make it a rule: first mentally say to yourself: “Stop! I will think over this problem again!”.
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Your main task is to refrain from an immediate reaction, to be patient. You can first mentally pronounce the phrase that you were going to say out loud, or mentally count to any specific number. These methods are very calming and, in some cases, help to resist emotional outburst. At first it will be hard for you to restrain yourself, then you will get used to it.
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Get used to looking at yourself from the side. Many overly emotional people, fortunately, do not even realize how unattractive they look, reacting violently to any failure, hindrance, oversight (their own or someone else's). The idea that he seems to someone an ill-educated ignoramus, a tantrum, can shake up and make any self-respecting person think again.
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Even a calm, phlegmatic person is difficult to maintain endurance, if, for example, at work a constant hassle or if he is very tired. Try to streamline your daily routine, stay outdoors more, pay special attention to healthy, full sleep. If possible, take at least a short vacation.
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Much depends on relatives and friends: they should try to create a calm, comfortable, supportive atmosphere at home, talk less about crime, diseases, disasters, politics, etc.
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Be sure to remember the cases when you were able to successfully solve any problem, problem, while maintaining calm. This will increase your self-esteem, inspire confidence in your abilities and abilities, and at the same time help you learn composure.