The spiritual teacher with his advice contributes to the highest transformation and further development of personality. How to find a real teacher? This question is very complex, because the relationship with the spiritual master is determined not only by the capabilities of his mind and body, but also by higher powers.
Instruction manual
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A true spiritual mentor is the best patron of the spiritual path, reliable protection from self-deception and delusions. If a person cannot pick up a spiritual teacher, then most likely he is not yet ready for a sincere relationship.
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The priest to whom you constantly confess can be a spiritual teacher. When choosing a confessor, judiciously approach this issue. Pay attention to the behavior of the clergyman. If he is calm, condescending, patient, ready to listen to you and grieve with you or to be happy for you, then he can become a real spiritual teacher.
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A true confessor is much better than any, even the most experienced psychologist. After all, he is given the gracious gift of God's love, and this love itself finds words of comfort.
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Never allow a clergyman to crush your own will, to seize it. Do not make him a "holy guru." After all, a confessor is a priest who professes and gives comforting, good advice. He should not intimidate you with hell and eternal torment.
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If you are used to confessing to one priest, talked with him and considered him your confessor, and then you had to change your place of residence, do not despair. In a new place, too, over time, you will pick up a real teacher. Visit the nearest temples, listen to the priests, be patient. You will definitely meet someone who can listen to you and give the right advice.
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If the priest is unpleasant to you in the human plane or if something confuses you and does not suit you when communicating with him, you should not force yourself through force. So this is not your spiritual teacher. And do not get too carried away by soulfulness in confession. The confessor is necessary for conversations to understand yourself. If you do not have such a priest, one of the laity can become a confessor. Just keep checking the gospel, keep reading it.
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Before you pick up a spiritual mentor, think about your actions and attitude towards people. Perhaps you do not trust those around you, your friends and relatives. Become a little open to them and then they will be able to listen to you and provide assistance in matters of concern to you.