Aggressive people tend to act in a hostile way: destroy, attack, protest. Aggressiveness can be uncontrollable and controllable. If it is uncontrollable, then such an emotion will be harmful, like any other. More often, outbreaks of anger are the result of sleep disturbances, experiencing stress, dissatisfaction with oneself or constant conflicts with loved ones.
Instruction manual
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When you feel that something is pissing you off, try to stop your actions and move away from the situation (move away from the person who is annoying on the street, go to another room, etc.).
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Practice a calm presence. Does the surface of the lake somehow react to the outside world? No way: it just reflects, and that’s it. Here you are - train to perceive what is happening around and not react to what is happening.
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And you can learn how to transfer aggression in another direction, for example, to exercise. Make shock, sharp movements, you can with exclamations. A good fit is karate or any other martial arts.
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If you are angry with someone, try putting yourself mentally in the place of that person. Think about why he behaves this way and what he is right about.
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Do not pay attention to minor irritants. Try to live as if this day is the last of your life.
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Do not blame others for the troubles. Try to forgive them, because Everyone has flaws.
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Break off aggressive thoughts with an unpleasant action directed at yourself. For example, bite your lip slightly. After some time, a conditioned reflex will develop that will allow you to control aggression. Or learn to put blocks on the outbursts of aggression: select a word or phrase (for example, "Stop"), and pronounce it to yourself every time you feel that tear now.
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Try to restrain yourself from raising your voice: take a deep breath when you want to scream, and imagine how with exhalation anger comes out of you. And only then begin to communicate.
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Whenever you have aggressive thoughts, find three reasons why this is unreasonable.
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Share your concern with the person you trust. Tell him about your negative emotions, and it will be easier for you to deal with them.
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Keep a diary for your outbursts of aggression. Write them down and the circumstances in which they arose in the head, as well as your actions. View your notes several times a week and analyze them. You can understand them and find out the cause of the aggressiveness.
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Smile more often, find funny in your anger at other people. Interrupt aggression by recalling jokes and jokes.
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Learn to relieve nervous tension and relax. This can be meditation, sports, auto-training, chatting with friends, relaxation music, etc.
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Have a rest. If you sleep little, then there is no question of managing yourself.
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Do a review of your life values. You are scandalous and screaming, not only because you are full of emotions, but also because you forgot about respect for other people. When you are ready to yell at a relative, acquaintance, or even an outsider, then remember that they, too, have the right to respect and well-being, just like you.