People with a strong character always delight and amaze. About ourselves, we can very well say: "But I am not like that, I can’t handle the mountains." But this is fundamentally the wrong belief, because every person at any stage of his life can create his own character.
Instruction manual
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Think carefully and write down on a piece of paper those qualities of character that you would like to possess, and those that you want to get rid of. To do this, try to evaluate yourself objectively, without attributing non-existent advantages to yourself and recognizing the shortcomings.
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Now think about negative character traits. There is a technique called "turning upside down." You believe that you are not purposeful and decisive enough, and this prevents you from achieving success, and now try to turn the judgment upside down. Most likely, you are afraid to be successful and be in the center of attention, so you diligently develop indecision in yourself. Decide to become successful, and determination will appear in you. Do the same with the rest of your character traits.
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Get rid of other people's characteristics at your expense, especially if they are not true. For example, your parents always called you lazy, and this opinion is densely embedded in your mind. You do not notice how subconsciously you try to match it. Write down these qualities, discard them and tear a piece of paper.
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Find a role model that has the qualities you desire. Let it be not a familiar person, but a well-known and even great person. Imagine him in your situation and do what he would do.
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Formulate phrases like: "I want to be active. I am already active." Repeat to yourself these magical expressions, and over time you will begin to fully comply with them.
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Imagine that the desired positive character traits are already part of you, and you are doing exactly as you would like. Visualize this image several times a day, let it become familiar and close to you.
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The character, contrary to popular belief, is formed in everyday life, and not in difficult moments. Therefore, the most difficult task for you is to form the right habits daily. Your laziness is just a habit, we can say that the muscles of working capacity are not in good shape, so you need to do several exercises daily to train them. At first it will not be comfortable, but after a couple of weeks you will notice that new habits have firmly entered your rhythm of life, and loved ones will begin to notice how much your character has changed for the better.