When entering into marriage, absolutely the majority of newlyweds are sure that they will have a strong, friendly family, which will not care for any adversity and crisis. Alas, this does not always happen. As if by the law of meanness, more and more new problems arise. The shortcomings of a loved one, which until recently I didn’t even want to think about, are now intrusively creeping into my eyes and insanely annoying. Quarrels arise literally from scratch. And there is a full-fledged family crisis, ending in divorce. How to protect yourself from this? How to avoid a crisis in family relationships?
Instruction manual
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First of all, try to firmly understand and remember: there are no ideal people. Each has not only advantages, but also disadvantages. Including - with you. Do not make excessive demands on your loved one, try to see in him only something good, worthy. If something does not suit you, speak frankly on this subject, only with the utmost delicacy, sparing his pride.
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Remember that marriage is the art of compromise. That family is bad where one side “suppresses” the other. A husband who, with perseverance worthy of a better use, makes his wife do only what he thinks is right, simply because he is a man, especially since he uses his strength for this, does not inspire respect.
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But just like that, a wife looks very unprofitable, seeking her own way, resorting to tears, reproaches, or tantrums, making her husband feel guilty: they say, a healthy man, and did not show generosity, did not give in, upset this weak, defenseless creature! The most reasonable thing is to agree in advance that the main word in this or that issue will be for those who better understand it.
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It is hardly necessary for a wife to crawl with her opinion, all the more so to insist on it if her husband is engaged in repairing electrical wiring or plumbing in an apartment, he decided to renovate a gazebo or a greenhouse in a summer cottage. In the same way, a husband must be given complete freedom of choice for his wife when she is busy with needlework and cooking.
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In no case do not neglect the intimate side of life! Of course, even the most ardent passion cannot last forever, with time it “cools down”, taking on more calm and measured forms. And then there are still children taking away a lot of time and energy. At work, problems, parents of their own age and therefore get sick more often
.No strength, no desire to make love! In a word, the pair somehow imperceptibly switches to the regime every two weeks (well, if not two months). And this is a direct path to the crisis. Remember the old passionate nights, try to "resurrect" and diversify your sex life.