In life, we are in contact with many people, and not with each of them we have a mutual understanding. However, situations are not uncommon when we still have to communicate with our ideological opponents - at work, in the family, or in another team. How to avoid conflict situations in this case?
Instruction manual
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Do not provoke. If you know that a person is a boor and a squabbler, it is better to stay away from him, once again not to talk with him, to communicate only when necessary. Thus, you will reduce the chances that the conflict will cling to you.
2
If the trouble nevertheless happened, and the person pulled you into a conflict situation, in no case do not fall to its level. In practice, this can be quite difficult to do, however, if in response to rudeness or cursing you do the same, you will lose face, which is what your opponent wants. Be calm, don’t raise your voice, and don’t scream.
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In the event that your foe has crossed all sorts of boundaries, insulting you, in no case do not be silent. Say that talking in such a tone is unacceptable, and you refuse to continue the conversation until he apologizes. Ignore all his further words completely - until you get an apology.
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Think about what goals are pursued by the person with whom you often have conflict situations. Most likely, he does not do this for the love of art: a colleague can cause you to scandal to expose you to the leadership of an unrestrained and unreliable person, and your mother-in-law can “catch” you, because it seems to her that you do not respect her enough. If you find where the legs of the conflict grow from, you can end it.
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After each conflict situation, analyze your behavior. It is possible that in some ways you served as the cause of the conflict without noticing it yourself. You need to do this after you have ceased to burn with righteous indignation and can look at the situation objectively. Try to look at it “from the side”, and perhaps you will see some of your mistakes that can be avoided in the future.