Envy is a feeling that no one is safe from. Even if everything happens well in a person’s life, there will certainly be someone who is even better. More money, more beautiful wife, more prestigious work, etc. There will be no such person in the world who at least once in his life would not look in the direction of a neighbor or colleague with envy, dreaming of getting what he has. It is quickly impossible to free oneself from envy, psychologists say, because this feeling is as natural and indestructible as love, hate, kindness, etc. But if you know some tricks, then you can get rid of envy - you can.
Instruction manual
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Stop comparing yourself to others. Someone's special luck and superiority is nothing more than the false formulas you invented. Do not consider your pros and cons and others. By doing this, you always run the risk of discovering that someone is the owner of more pluses, and you begin to complex, show envy, and with it - indecision or, on the contrary, anger. There will be no comparison - there will be no envy.
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If you can’t compare yourself with others, try to look at these comparisons from a slightly different angle. For example, you envied a neighbor who has significantly more money than you. Think about it: what is more important for you - a lot of money or the opportunity to spend a lot of time with children. Or: a rich gentleman of a girlfriend, or a loving and reliable husband. According to psychologists, the formula "but I have
."helps a lot. That is - compare in your favor.
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Learn to use envy as an indicator. To do this, try to impartially and objectively analyze your feelings - to whom and what do you most often envy. So you find out what you lack in life, and begin to strive to ensure that you have it. There is only one condition: receiving not in order to get ahead, overtake, but with the understanding that you really need it, that your life will become richer and brighter from this.
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Put yourself in the place of those people whom you envy. It is likely that their life is not as perfect as you imagine. And it may very well be that they do not have what you have. For example, they live in a luxury cottage, but there is no respect and mutual understanding between relatives, and you huddle in a cramped apartment, but you have a friendly and strong family. Who is luckier? Ask yourself this question and ask yourself if you want to be in the place of the one you envy?
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Try to communicate less with those and be in the presence of someone you envy. It happens like this: by and large, everything suits you in your life, but you should visit the house of a distant relative and have a nice chat with her, as envy attacks begin - oh, she bought a new headset! ah, her children now have a governess, etc. Minimize communication with those in whose presence you experience an inferiority complex.
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Psychologists managed to find out that with bouts of envy in a person, the same parts of the brain that are responsible for physical pain are activated. Those. the body signals - stop! - the feeling that you are experiencing now hurts you.
It is noticed that envious people more often than others have diseases of the nervous system, heart, gall bladder, intestines.