Indecision is a character trait that usually annoys both its owner and others. Of course, when it is necessary to put a “solid fat point” in any business, and a person cannot decide in any way what he ultimately wants, this is unpleasant. Therefore, getting rid of this "vice" is simply necessary.
Instruction manual
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Listen to your speech. If you notice that your phrases include words such as “well, ” “maybe, ” “I doubt, ” “I'm not sure, ” “I can't decide, ” etc., then this is a serious reason to think. Of course, such phrases are familiar to everyone, but their too frequent use with an uncertain voice indicates the presence of indecision in character. Therefore, try to speak firmly, avoiding prolonged deliberation on this or that occasion.
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Limit time to make decisions. As soon as a difficult situation has arisen, immediately begin to think about ways out of it. You can even take several pieces of paper and divide each one into two columns: in one column, mark the arguments for and in the other against. For example, you set a goal to meet one hour. So at the end of it you need to complete your thoughts and take stock. It doesn’t matter how many methods have been considered. The main thing is that the one where there are more positive aspects (arguments for) is correct.
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After a week, or maybe a month, you will be able to cope with the problems mentally, without resorting to records. In addition, the process will become fast, because you can get rid of fluctuations by comparing various arguments.
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Cultivate courage in yourself. This is precisely the human quality that contributes to the emergence of determination and self-confidence. For example, you are afraid of speaking in public. So step over that fear. Write a report, story, poems and find a way to present what was done to others. At one point, you will realize that inner stiffness and tightness have receded.
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Just do not bring it to the point of absurdity: the desire to overcome the fear of heights does not mean that you urgently need to jump from the tenth floor (although it is possible that you will be able to gain the courage to jump with a parachute). Having created a “core” in the soul, it is quite possible to replace lack of will with hardness and categoricalness.