Feelings of guilt - an emotion that corrupts a person, which limits a person's abilities. The situation is even worse when they feel guilty before their parents, because in this case the torment increases one hundred times. There is no doubt that guilt should be prevented by introspection, directing the resulting indignation and emotions to rethink. It is always worth remembering that insoluble situations are a myth that you should not depend on.
How to overcome guilt before moving parents
Feeling guilty before parents never arises by chance. Most often, it is formed under the control of one’s own conscience or because of the parents themselves, who, by old age, may fear loneliness or simply have exorbitant demands on their own children.
"The child is a guest in your house. Feed, teach and let go." This is a clear and stable expression in use in the East for centuries. Unfortunately, in the Western world people think a little differently. As a result, the world receives entire generations that are not capable of independent life. And only the parents are to blame for this.
It is logical that a person, upon reaching 20-25 years old, must exist independently and have before himself all those life situations that life has presented to thousands of generations before him. But here you can encounter the first experience of feeling guilty towards parents, when all thoughts are set for an independent and free life, and from the view of the parents you can understand that they do not want to let you go.
It is a fact, but in this situation, the parents themselves do not understand what the matured person is being tuned for. Subconsciously, they want him / her to live happily and separately from them, but instinct begins to prevail over the mind. In such a case, it is very easy to remove the feeling of guilt before the parents. And the usual logic will help in this. Will the parents be happy if the child stays in their house until the age of 35? Will they like to see how their child is deprived of the experiences of an independent life? Are grandchildren and parents compatible? The answer to all three questions is a categorical no. If guilt remains after that, then you can ask yourself a dozen more questions of this kind.
Moving from parents at the very beginning is best accompanied by frequent visits and phone calls. You can tell about your accomplishments and successes. This will save parents from doubt, and guilt will begin to recede.
Feeling guilty before parents and choosing a profession
In society, there are various professional dynasties, when from generation to generation children go in the footsteps of their parents. But not all of them made this decision consciously and voluntarily. In the 21st century it is still much more complicated, because many professions have lost their relevance and prestige. So, if a young man wants to become a musician, and his family demands to continue the dynasty of doctors, military or agronomists, then it is best to survive short-term disagreements with the family than to be unhappy all your life. Becoming a musician, perhaps there is one chance out of a thousand for success and happiness. Having made the decision of the parents, becoming a doctor / military / engineer, there is no chance to be happy. And life alone and never lost time, so you should only follow your vocation. Parents always want to see their child happy. That is why, choosing your own path and achieving success on it, you will be able to please your parents much more, and guilt will pass by itself in the early stages.
Feeling guilty before the closest people can blur the mind, and the decision made on this subject can be thoughtless. In this situation, one cannot trust emotions; comprehension should be logical and time-honored.