A person often has to express his opinion on any issue, enter into discussions, discussing a particular problem, object and prove his case. In other words, argue with other people. Alas, not everyone knows how to behave politely and culturally in an argument. Very often it comes to aggravation of the situation, rudeness, transition to the individual. The result is a quarrel, a spoiled mood, a reputation of an impolite, unrestrained person.
Instruction manual
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First of all, each participant in the dispute must firmly understand and remember: any person, even the most intelligent and educated, can be mistaken. Therefore, do not consider your opinion the only correct one, not subject to discussion, do not impose it on others. Even if a question is being discussed that you are very good at. And world-renowned professionals happened to make mistakes.
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Remember: a well-mannered, polite person always convinces other people that he is right by arguments, and not by rudeness. Therefore, refrain from derogatory reactions to the words of an opponent like "What stupidity!" or "Bullshit!", even if his words were, to put it mildly, not the most reasonable. Listen carefully, without interrupting, and then calmly and politely express your point of view. If you think that the interlocutor was wrong, clearly and clearly indicate what exactly he was mistaken in, where is the weak link of his reasoning.
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Follow your facial expressions, gestures. A well-mannered person, listening to the interlocutor, will not make contemptuous grimaces, frown as if from a toothache, or even simply defiantly be distracted, showing with his whole appearance that other people's words are an empty phrase for him. Yes, it’s entirely possible that your opponent is speaking outright stupid, or has taken up his mind confidently about what he is poorly versed in. It does not do him honor. But you should in any case behave with dignity.
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Even if the interlocutor annoys you, talk to him in a calm and polite tone, in no case do not stoop to stinging jokes, tips for returning to school, etc. Of course, not a single self-respecting person will allow himself to speak dismissively of the racial, national, or religious affiliation of an opponent. This is absolutely unacceptable.
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If you yourself see and feel that the opponent is unwaveringly standing in their positions, it is hardly worth continuing the argument. Why do you spend time and effort on a deliberately hopeless job? Try, under some specious pretext, to end the conversation, for example, referring to employment, an urgent matter. In an extreme case, one can always say, also politely and calmly: "Well, let everyone remain in their own opinion."