In the life of almost every person, there were people whom they disliked and irritated. The causes of this unpleasant feeling can be very, very many. Pushing us away from a person can be his behavior, manner of communication. Dislike may be associated with some kind of childhood experiences. You unconsciously “transfer” your old grievances to a person, only because he is somewhat similar to a character from your past.
Instruction manual
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Find out the cause of hostility. Perhaps you are well aware of her. For example, a person insulted or humiliated you, i.e. you have a reason for such feelings. But it happens that you do not understand why you do not like someone. After all, a person is good, and other people communicate with him without problems. In this case, the reason is more difficult to establish, since a feeling of hostility arises unconsciously.
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Learn to control your emotions and evaluate various situations objectively. Perhaps there is no reason for the hostility, but under the influence of feelings, bad mood or some old memories, you begin to feel irritation to the person.
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If the reason for your hostility is not obvious, and you understand that the person is not bad, try to get to know him better. With closer communication, some unpleasant associations caused by this person are likely to disappear.
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The reason for hostility may be that a person is a reflection of your own shortcomings. For example, you are often late for work, but are afraid to admit to your own non-punctuality, and the other person is late, but at the same time accepts this negative trait in himself. The fact that he does not hide this, just can cause irritation in you. In this case, try to change your attitude to yourself, acknowledge your shortcomings or try not to react so sharply to their presence in other people.
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If the reason for the hostility is significant or you cannot cope with your emotions, try to stop or minimize communication with such a person. Sometimes you should ignore too persistent and annoying people. Gradually, his interest in your person will disappear.
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Unfortunately, it is not always possible to ignore a person. Especially if you have to communicate at work, and certainly this should not be done if he is your boss. In this case, you should try to change your attitude towards the situation. Of course, you need to communicate with these people, but you do not need to take their every word and action to your heart. Avoid personal experiences. Think of such communication as an unpleasant need.
- Psychology: Human Relations
- dislike of man