It is easy for some people to be independent, while others need a lot of time and a lot of effort to become an independent person. However, living in accordance with personal needs and with your perception of the world, of course, has many advantages.
Instruction manual
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Improve your awareness of your actions and decisions. Of course, one can argue that when doing the usual work, mindfulness is not very necessary, since over time, automatism begins to develop in actions. However, in critical situations, during which people begin to “give out” unpredictable reactions, everything is different. In such cases, try to understand what exactly controls your behavior. For example, it can be low self-esteem or fear, the influence of external factors or the lack of ability to quickly analyze what is happening.
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Develop your various skills and fight your fears. So, for example, in order to really be an independent person, you need to learn how to be an observant person, capable of assessing situations, analyzing and interpreting situations, explaining and drawing conclusions. And remember that the same information can be perceived and interpreted in different ways. Therefore, when assessing the situation, try to separate important factors from secondary ones. In addition, to be an independent person, you should also develop extraordinary behavior skills. Even if it looks unusual enough, don't be embarrassed by this.
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Respect yourself and perceive as you are. You should not be a copy of some successful businessman, politician, star of show business or one of your neighbors, whose wealth is tens of times greater than your personal one. Your value is in your uniqueness, so do not waste your time with negative self-criticism. Gain confidence in yourself and don't be afraid of mistakes. Everyone, including you, has the right to make mistakes. And all people, even the most famous, make them. To verify this, you can read the absurd, and sometimes even stupid, statements of famous people.
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If someone is trying to impose their own assessment of the situation on you, always be prepared to destroy the integrity of the frame of the given event, even if the interlocutor’s train of thought seems logical and unique to you. Without losing emotional balance, you should be able to give a personal assessment of the information provided to you, since it is very possible that they are simply trying to manipulate you.