You met the man of your dreams, and you are ready to entrust your life to him, but something subconsciously keeps you from such a step? At the time of falling in love, all the shortcomings of the object of sighing are reduced, seem unimportant, but the brain continues to analyze and warns against hasty decisions. What wake-up calls should I look for?
Instruction manual
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Your chosen one hides a past life
Everyone has skeletons in the closet. But if a person wants to be with you, he will entrust you with the most unpleasant facts of his biography. If he doesn’t have such a desire, then either his plans for your account are not very serious, or the past is so terrible that it can turn away even the most loving person. Prison, drug addiction, genetic disease or mental illness, whatever it is, in any case, it is better to know about such surprises in advance.
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"Sissy
Respect for parents, love for the family is certainly good. But not if affection and desire to please them is placed above personal interests. And the unconditional adherence of a man in adulthood to the advice of his mother raises some questions. Moreover, such a chosen one will constantly compare you with your mother and his ratings will not be in your favor. And for such a mother-in-law, as a rule, even the most ideal daughter-in-law cannot be good.
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Addicted to alcohol, drugs or gambling
It can be assumed that with an forgiving, enormous love, you can overcome the disease together, but this is more a story from sentimental melodramas than from real life. Promises that are not fulfilled, the eternal lack of money, disruptions, unconsciousness, personal interests are always in the first place. Few people agree to put up with this and ruin their years to fight someone’s addictions.
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Maintains warm relations with the "former"
Few people are pleased to see how your chosen one flirts with your ex, or rushes to help her, spitting on your general plans. You may not have to show that it is unpleasant for you, so as not to be considered a hypocrite, but the sediment remains and dissatisfaction accumulates. It’s better to say right away that you don’t enjoy such a warm relationship with “former” ones.
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Speaks poorly about the "former"
When people blame anything on anyone, just not themselves, it’s not good either. If all of your boyfriend’s “exes” were terrible bastards and completely fallen women, mercantile and cynical, who did not appreciate his bright thoughts and subtle spiritual organization, there is a very high probability that you will follow them.