There are three feelings: sacrifice, savior and aggressor. With their help, you can understand the life triangle of relationships.
A victim is a person who feels helplessness, exhaustion, a desire to obey someone, a misunderstanding of what is happening, powerlessness and a sense of indecency.
The aggressor is that person who is confident in himself and in his abilities, he is constantly looking for justice, the desire to punish someone is inherent, as well as how to influence the victim and the savior.
The Savior is a person who wants to help all the time, has feelings of confidence and pity.
From this we can conclude that the first role has to endure bullying. The second role is punishable, and the third is trying to save the participants. It should also be understood that when in such a geometric figure, the individual in any case will fulfill all the functions. This all can last an unlimited amount of time and is not dependent on the members themselves.
For example, the spouse can no longer endure, the addict to alcohol no longer has any desire to drink, and the doctor does not want to deceive the family, which is a favorable way out of the situation. Everything is easy and simple. But everything will depend on the result. It is necessary that at least one of the participants emerges from the triangle, otherwise everyone can play their roles indefinitely.
Is it possible to leave the triangle? To begin with, it’s worthwhile to figure out the role of who was logged in. There is a concept of "role inversion." For example, the aggressor is perceived as a teacher, the savior as an assistant and escort, and the victim as a student. If a person is inclined to believe that he entered the triangle as a savior, then you should get rid of thoughts that make you act nobly towards the victim. In this case, assistance will be provided to the victim, but without any results. After that, a defenseless individual will begin to realize that this can be learned independently.
