The roles in Karpman's Triangle are a victim, a stalker, a rescuer. Many of us live one of these roles in various ways. What if you realized that you are seriously plunged into one of the roles and cannot find a way out?
Any person himself or with the help of a psychologist can very well get out of negative roles. You just need to honestly understand yourself and want to change.
For example, you realized that you were in the role of a victim. It is very important to understand that many of your actions are not random, but dictated by the desire to relieve responsibility for some areas of your life and enjoy the vivid emotions that the negative situation itself brings. Although emotions are negative, they can also be desired in order to brighten up life.
Confess to these feelings and give an honest answer to the question why it is so difficult for you to bear responsibility, what exactly do you want to shift to the shoulders of the pursuer. This is a very serious matter. Is it difficult for you to be responsible for relationships, or for some of your manifestations? The topic of responsibility is quite serious and implies a certain personality maturity. One way or another, each of us learns all his life to take responsibility for some areas of life.
Understand that shifting responsibility is a completely dead end. No problems will be resolved along this path. In addition to this, the responsibility that is transferred to the persecutor is not actually accepted by him, only the illusion is created that he is responsible for something.
Now, after such an honest analysis of your motivation, you just need to start taking a little responsibility for those areas of life in which you shifted it to the pursuer. Failures in a career? It is necessary to gradually look for ways of implementation in the chosen activity. Don't like something about yourself? Learn about ways to correct this.
If you realize that you are in the role of a pursuer, begin to study your self-esteem. Why do you need to feel superior? Perhaps the reasons lie in family relationships. In this case, it will be useful to undergo a course of psychotherapy. Think about why you need to make someone guilty of your failures? Maybe it's not too late to do something in life that will allow you to be proud of yourself? Then the need to squander their unfulfillment on someone else will disappear?
If you realized that you were in the role of a savior, then the most sobering thing for you will be the realization that there is no positive result in the life of the one you decided to save. You listen to the victim over and over again, and all your advice on real changes in the situation is not accepted. Such awareness can show the savior of the illusory nature of his role. Do you need her now?